Communication and Relationships
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Hey @T1994!! It's great that you're getting more self-aware about your behaviour! Have you looked up what Cognitive Analytical Therapy is like? You could mention it to your counsellor as well and see what they think
I do enjoy communicating and hanging out with friends... Getting to know people in my day's work, and doing community visits, where it's so refreshing making conversation with my clients out in the field. Sometimes we are the only people they meet all day...I'd get right back into it as soon i can! 😄
Well, about my best mate - thanks for being so easy to talk to. Although me too just like sitting together in silence, working, reading, watching tele- not feeling you have to talk all the time- thats real friendship too. And to him for being always supportive of me and my decisions, even though i had to take an alternative road for a while 🙂
Communication and relationships...
I think you are taking some really great first steps @T1994, and you should be really proud. Try to not get upset at the situation, sometimes it takes a loved one to tell us truths we don't want to hear, but in the long run it is the best thing for us. I've been in the same situation and I'd like to think that I am better for the situation I was in, and the help that I seeked, and I reckon you will be too. Counselling is a great start and will give you an opportunity to have some really great discussions about your communication in a really relaxed environment. Good luck and let us know how you go.
Hi!
There have also been times in my relationship with my partner over the past year where I found myself "stunted" (for want of a better word) in my communication style. I'm not sure what was making me uncomfortable - defintely there was nothing about him or between us I was unhappy about at all - I can only think that it was because of the high standards I put upon myself?
I had some setbacks with uni, work and family that made me feel a little ashamed, and I guesws I didn't know how to broach it? so i clammed up and i think that communication style confused him.
I really believe in open and honest communication in all relationships - and usually I absolutely abide by this ethic! 🙂
I guess when you want to make an impression or when you are looking for that cue from them that they are on the same page with you - it boils down to me having let those external things impact on our connection.
Well, I havren't given up hope. Life's taught me many things, and no mattr how it will turn out, I'm happy to be me 
I think that I have a lot going for me that i feel very lucky for! I now see those external situtaions in better light and don't ljudge myself by those at all - and now I would never ever let anything take the focus away from any good connection I am going to have. Butr I'd probably also always prefer to develop that with someone I can talk freely and be myself with, but also build a better communication styl with in such relationships, as I'm the sort of persoin who learns by doing. 
Well, thank god we have a long life to enjoy the journey/s!
@T1994 That's really good – a mental healthcare plan is really helpful. Feel free to use it to find a suitable counsellor as it is not unusual that things might not click with the first person you speak to. Let us know how you go.
Hi @T1994, welcome to Reach Out.
If you would like to improve your communication skills, you have definitely come to the right place! We're all about sharing – experiences, thoughts, feelings, helpful tips and strategies... 🙂 I noticed you are taking steps to improve your communication skills, well done for identifying that this area could be improved, as many people aren't aware when they are not communicating well. Is your partner also working on strategies to improve the communication in your relationship? Relationships do require ongoing work and there is a need for give and take from both parties.
I'm also impressed you intended to reach out to a counsellor. It takes a lot of guts to speak up when we're struggling. How did you go making the appointment? Would you also consider going to a couple's counselling session so you could work on communication strategies together?
Browse this section on communicating
http://au.reachout.com/wellbeing/social-skills/communication-skills
But also check out:
http://au.reachout.com/managing-pressures-with-your-boyfriend-or-girlfriend
http://au.reachout.com/conflict-in-relationships
What do toher people think?
