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Helping out a friend

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Hi y'all!


So I've got a friend that I'm super close with. We confide in each other about a lot, and I know that there's some stuff in her life that is not going too well at the moment. She's at a point where she's having constant panic attacks and always seems really antsy. I can't quite place where her parents are at, but they seem to blame her for a lot of things, she seems to think she's going to be kicked out soon for being gay. I encourage her to talk to a psych or a particular teacher about it, but she's had a messy past with psychologists, as she doesn't really feel that they've ever helped. Protective services have also gotten involved a few times, but she says that only strained her relationship with her parents as they blamed her for it. I'm at a loss with what to do, as I don't to just leave the situation as it is because I'm really worried about her, but I don't know where to go next. I also don't want to do anything that would hurt her or make her feel uncomfortable. What can I do to help this friend?


Thanks heaps,

spicyunicorn Smiley Happy

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Re: Helping out a friend

Hey @spicyunicorn wow you sound like a super supportive friend well done on taking the convo to RO hopefully a few of the crew can provide you with a bit of support.


It could be cool to remember, even though this is hard to see happen to your mate, you can't carry the weight of the whole scenario on your shoulders. By being a good friend, sitting with them during the dark times... I think that's one of the best things a mate can do (despite at times feeling a little helpless). Do you guys get out much just the two of you to the movies etc to take her mind off things?


There's a couple of further resources I would encourage her to try.


Kids Helpline are qualified counsellors who specialise in these sorts of issues she is going through [click here], that's free and she can choose to do a webchat Smiley Happy


There's also Q Life [click] as well as Youth Affairs Council [click].


Do you think any of those options would make her feel uncomfortable?

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Re: Helping out a friend

Hi @spicyunicorn xx I'm sorry to hear that your friend is going through such a hard time and that you feel so stuck. I think the best you could do at the moment is support her in any way that you can. Be it just talking with her, listening to her and supporting her feelings. Maybe encourage her to join a support group or chat room like this to find people going a similar situation. All the best xx
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Re: Helping out a friend

You can contact counselor  and take suggestion which help you to comeout your problem.

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Re: Helping out a friend

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I've also got very close friend who is Bipolar.  He is going to a counselor for help and taking medicine. But, I have learned more about his disease and really want him to have the trust in me and let me help him through his days when he is feeling the down days but he is so "personal"  about this, he doesn't want to talk about it with me. He is like a brother to me and does know this. I have seizures and he knows this. He always takes care of them when I have one. We've known each other 38 years. I just wish there was a way I could get him to "open up" to me because I have told him plenty of times how I feel. It also makes him pace a lot. I don't say anything to him about it because I understand this is part of the problem he has with his nervousness also.

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Re: Helping out a friend

Hey @pup2bill, sounds like you have a good rapport with your friend and really want what is best for him.


There's definitely a couple of resources available to you, however is intended for use by 14-25 year old Australians. Anyone is free to read content on but you must be 14 - 25 to become a member.


As an alternative there's the BeyondBlue Forum [click here]

There's also the Sane Forum [click here]

I hope these resources help you with some peer support and advice in building trust between your friend with bipolar and yourself Smiley Happy

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