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Nurture relationship with siblings goal4

My siblings are the most important people to me and one of the goals I am working on is nurturing the relationship with my siblings.

 

 

I'd like to a good example to my siblings by expressing emotions in a healthy way through sport, art, music rather than in negative ways like aggressive behaviour. I'd like to spend more time with them and if I can't spend more time with them then make the time I do have with more as valuable as possible. 

 

I've been going to yoga with vahs and I was thinking maybe it would be good if I taught them what I have learnt because it probably be beneficial for them and maybe get them onto Smiling Mind too. 

 

Does anybody have any information or resources on younger siblings and relationships? perhaps role modelling too?

 

At the moment I'm trying to monitor my emotional behaviour and try to keep it positive and less angry and destructive, if anybody sees me doing this well that will help out with this goal I think because then I know what to do right.

 

 

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Re: Nurture relationship with siblings goal4

hi @j95 

 

i think you shouldnt change yourself to the extent they dont know who you are. your character traits are still what make you YOU.

i think teaching them those life skills, the fun activities like yoga and things that you and they have in common or things they like such as skateboarding or surfing as well.

i think role modelling as such is showing them that you care about them, are willing to teach and share things with them and learning to maintain your emotions but still letting them know that its ok to show emotions and express how they are feeling to you or to others in their life. role modelling often comes naturally with trust as well  Smiley Happy

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Re: Nurture relationship with siblings goal4

I love this thread @j95! I think it's so lovely that you're intent on helping your siblings in this way.

 

In regards to information, I can only offer my own experience in trying to be a good role model to my own younger brother. He and I are very similar and I'm trying to give him the guidance I wish I had, by showing an interest in things he likes such as baking, certain TV shows and pokemon Go. So knowing their interests (which I'm sure you do) is something I'd recommend.

 

Also, if you do find yourself reacting ineffectively in front of them, as I do with my brother, it might be about explaining to them what's going on for you. e.g. Earlier today X happened and now I feel Y. The honesty and open communication might help them feel like they can be similarly honest with you. 

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Re: Nurture relationship with siblings goal4

thanks @letitgo yeah the honesty is important.
there is so many of them i have to try and spread my time amongst them all haha
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how is your relationships going @j95 are they still going ok? getting better?

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I haven't been allowed to see them @scared01
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well thats shite @j95

 

when do you get to see them again?

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It's supposed to be every Friday afternoon but the visits keep getting cancelled by the place that runs it. I contacted them about it and they said they undergoing some changes in that area so some mix ups might have been occurring they'll try and work it out all out for me @scared01 but I don't know if that will happen considering how much I've been stuffed around
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well thats shite @j95 hopefully they get it sorted out soon, you deseerve to see your siblings

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Yes @scared01 I agree, hope it gets sorted @j95 and you get some time with them. I don't doubt that they love you very much and miss you. Can you send them gifts/letters etc?

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