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Re: the point of seeing a psych

@N1ghtW1ng

 

I used to bring up things in the last ten seconds if at all knowing that I wouldn't then talk about it because my psych was strict with time. Eventually, she knew it would come up and so she knew to follow it up with the next session, so I understand what you mean. I would suggest rather then talking about what you struggle with in your list, talk about what makes you struggle with talking about it. - Is it bc people don't view it as valid for example? 

 

I found things like this easier because then when I finally did bring it up and what the experience was that triggered me off, my psych had a good idea of why it took me weeks to finally talk if I was afraid of ramifications as this is a big trigger for me.

 

On a side note, are you comfortable with this particular psych or do they make you uncomfortable? Maybe consider a change if this is the case....

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Re: the point of seeing a psych

Hi there, 

 

When I first started seeing my psych I had a lot of things going on at the one time. Similar to you I had lots of things I wanted to say but could cover them all, which would leave me frustrated and also anxious cause I wasn't dealing with them. 

So I wrote what I wanted to talk to her about down on paper and took it with me, this way I could just let her know what I was experiencing and then we eventually were able to work through them. 

 

This will help you for starters get it all off your chest but also let her know what you are experiencing in turn allowing your psych be able to better guide you through your recovery. 

 

 

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Re: the point of seeing a psych

@May_@roseisnotaplant @Nat8 @jesseka_grace @scared01 

Thank you all for replying. Smiley Happy 

 

I am comfortable with this psych. The reason I feel uncomfortable with/don't want to expressing all the other stuff is because I first saw her about A(it's the first letter) and that was basically the main thing and these others things are just B through F or whatever. So I feel hesitant to bring up B through F when she's mainly helping me with A. 

 

I think, my best bet is to hand her a list, I don't think I would be able to verbally bring things up. But then what? Should I expand on things in the list (like social anxiety: groups, uni classes blah blah blah) or just leave it at the dot points (as in social anxiety. so on and so forth)?  I would have to verbally explain it to her then, but on the other hand I'd feel kind of stupid...

 

I still have two and a bit weeks to get everything together, thankfully Smiley Tongue

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Re: the point of seeing a psych

Your not stupid not a chance @n1ghtw1ing
Your overthinking it abit though.
Just start by writing and giving her the list and say i need some help with these things too please but i dont know where to start She will then lead you herself . That's whats shes there for to help you
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Re: the point of seeing a psych

@N1ghtW1ng I think the list idea is good. Let the psych work out how to move forward with it in an acceptable way. don't overthink it too much and start with things that you are comfortable saying about it rather than just saying everything. you do have time. Use it. It's a marathon not a sprint Smiley Happy
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Re: the point of seeing a psych

@N1ghtW1ng I guarantee that she won't think you're stupid! Smiley Happy Good that you have some time to think about the things you want to bring up. I usually have lists going in the notes on my phone so I can add to them anytime a thought comes into my mind
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Re: the point of seeing a psych

Don't feel stupid, nothing that you are feeling is stupid or invalid always remember that! 

 

I think once you say hey I am also struggling with this, she will then figure out where to take it. Some things she might want to expand on straight away, others she may leave about to talk about later as there is only so much she can cover in one session but at least she knows. 

 

I think if you just say what else is going on your psych will then determine what she wants to talk about or ask about what is the most pressing issue for you right now. 

 

I struggled so much, in the beginning, of my sessions to verbalise what I was going through/feeling as it is not a normal thing we do in day to day life. 

 

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Registered: ‎29-08-2016

Re: the point of seeing a psych

Hey @N1ghtW1ng :-) I agree that the list is a good idea. She won't think you're stupid, and you're not. The sessions are supposed to be guided around you and what you want to focus on, so you aren't wrong to inform her about what's going on for you.

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Re: the point of seeing a psych

@N1ghtW1ng Hey, i am new here but I hope I can help. I have been seeing counsellors and psychologists since 2013. Since last year, I have been seeing this psychologist who has been finally the one that is helpful compared to the others I have seen. I work with him on my PTSD, extreme anxiety around Uni work, paranoia, mild dissociation, depression, suicidal thoughts, and existential/spirituality stuff. At the beginning I found it hard to open up, so I wrote down the things I want to say in session and brought the paper into the session so that I can look at it and not forget what I wanted to say.

There's no right or wrong. Just be you. Psychologists have seen so many people that they can handle just about any information or story you tell.

Best of luck
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Registered: ‎10-05-2017

Re: the point of seeing a psych

Hi @N1ghtW1ng,

 

It is really common not to be able to talk about the issues you're dealing with. 

 

But I find that the reason you may be not wanting to open up about some things is because you may be scared to admit how you are feeling, and saying it aloud makes it real and then you have to face the problem. But the psych is there for that. 

 

You could start by saying:

"There are things I want to talk about but I don't know how to."

"There are things I haven't told you and I am scared to tell you and I don't know why."

"I want to tell you about something but I feel like I can't bring myself to say it." 

 

 

Your psych should be able to guide you to open up, but you have to want to in order to have the courage to actually do it. Maybe write it down? 

 

Good luck. 

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