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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Oh yeah @khaleesi_18, confidentiallity is totally important! I forgot that one ha. I think it's good to know about who can and can't say what to who before you see someone.

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Have you had a good experience seeking help? What made it good? 

 

When I finally found someone I could connect with and actually talk to and open up to, I'd say that was a pretty good experience. It took a bit of time so it was a huge relief. 

It was good because I felt heard, I felt like my counsellor understood what I was trying to say and if they didn't understand they kept digging and working it out. I felt comfortable, rather than feeling like there was a hierachy, it was less this professional is here to tell you what to do and more lets work together on it. 

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Have you had a good experience seeking help? What made it good? 

 

For me, it was listening to my concerns, if I had a particularly tough session, it was ringing me the following day or 2 to check up on me and making sure I was still okay. 

 

Asking for permission to refer me to another service / share relevent information with that service.

 

The fact that my GP and psychologist work together with my treatment.

Introducing me the the therapist that was taking over them when they went on leave in my last session with them.

 

And most recently, allowing me to chose the type of therapy I would like to receive.


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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Welcome @letitgo and @roseisnotaplant!

 

@letitgo I totally agree with your (totally valid hehe) point about validation. Reliability is hugely important as well!

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Speaking as someone who's been a patient and a crisis supporter- there's also the expectation (well, more of a hope, really) that the help is timely- that support is available when and as it's needed.

 

It's important not to forget that most people don't reach out until they hit a crisis point! I know I didn't- it took almost "failing" my HSCs before I went to see my school counsellor for the first time, and I'm really glad they stuck with me and listened to what I had to say, even though it was technically after hours. Who knows, I might not have gone again if I hadn't been able to reach them the first time.

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Have you had a good experience seeking help? What made it good?

 

Kind of? I wouldn't say I've ever had a particularly bad experience seeking help, but I don't think I've really found a counsellor or someone to talk to in a professional sense. I've had more success talking to friends and working through stuff with them, which is still valuable, because we understand each other and know how we can help or offer support.

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Time for question 3.... 

 

Have you had a not so great experience with seeking help? What do you think made it unhelpful? How could the experience have been made better?

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

Have you had a good experience seeking help? What made it good? 

 

Yep! And the biggest thing was coming away from it seeing the problem as separate from me, rather than some fundamental aspect of me. I realised I could still be me and not have anxiety

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

It sounds like approaching therapy as collaborative process is really helpful!

 

@stonepixie and @j95 it's so awesome to hear that you've had really beneficial and valuable sessions. The professionals you've seen sound fantastic.

 

@roseisnotaplant help seeking means different things for everybody. Finding support from your friends sounds like a really helpful strategy for you - sharing experiences and helping each other work through tough times can be pretty powerful (but remember to take care of yourself too if things are getting too much!) Smiley Happy

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Re: [CHAT] I went looking for help and didn't find it

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Have you had a good experience seeking help? What made it good? 

I don't have a specific instance in mind, but some things that have been good when I've sought help are:

  • Feeling like they genuinely cared and wanted to help,
  • Listening without making incorrect assumptions,
  • Not trying to prematurely direct the conversation away from what I wanted to talk about / where I was at,
  • Following up rather than being like "ok here's what you have to do, go do that. bye."
  • Actually listening to why their suggested solution might not be helpful in this case, and trying to work together to find a different solution.

 

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