26-09-2016 08:58 PM
What are some negatives that arise from porn?
Porn can set unrealistic expectations about sex and the 'ideal' body
Lots of porn involves the degradation of women, and lots of violence - perhaps watching a lot of this can change people's perceptions of what is appropriate in the real-world
26-09-2016 08:59 PM
Hmm so we really don't talk about it enough early enough huh! This makes me a bit sad, i wonder if people are scared of talking about it and why? Feel free to answer that
what are some negatives that arise from porn?
Well i guess the biggest one seems to be unrealistic expectations about what real sex is. Some porn is definitely kind of more of a performance than what real sex is generally like. There's not a lot of the intimacy and paying attention to the other person and what they're enjoying or even what you're enjoying... it's more like really bad acting of the real thing.
I guess if someone was learning about and deciding what they were into, this could perhaps not help you get the best understanding of all the amazing things about sex and intimacy. It's like black and white vs colour television... there's a LOT more going on in real intimacy.
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26-09-2016 09:04 PM
porn is totally scripted!!! well, most of it is, even amateur porn videos are often only made to look like they are amateur. this could lead to us feeling like we dont perform 'well enough' when we get to doing things with someone else, and can lead to feelings of not being good enough. i think thats an important negative of porn too to keep in mind
26-09-2016 09:06 PM
@RevzZ good point.
I think something else to think about is that porn is kind of just there whenever, real intimacy with a person can take a little effort and time to work up to! The sterotype in porn is that it has a really bad plot. And perhaps that's because if they wanted to portray how real intimacy happens you'd have a lot more time paying attention to the other person, doing non-sexy stuff and then eventually, maybe, if everyone consents: business time.
Do you think that maybe watching porn makes us think that real life sex or intimacy is just kind of on tap when really it takes a little more time than it does in porn?
26-09-2016 09:06 PM - edited 26-09-2016 09:08 PM
@Ben-RO That's a good question. It could be quite strange if something so prevalent in our world is also something people are scared of at the same time.
Edit: Such clutch timing! This was in response to the previous post haha