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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

@N1ghtW1ng yeah I totally get what you're saying and it does seem like so many couples just do it to show off how much they 'love' their partner by buying them the most expensive gift they can but I also think not everyone is like that like I know couples who make diy things and don't spend any money at all? I don't know how to explain it but I think it's just a bit of fun for some couples? But I get what you're saying in that sometimes it seems very phony

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's


What do you think are some positive and negative aspects of Valentines day?

 

Pos: having an opportunity to reinforce the love and gratitude you have for your partner/s. Having a good reason to get gifts and flowers for your loved one. You get to make pretty Valentine's Day cards. Chocolate. BEES! 

 

Negs: Highly commercialised, makes a lot of profit for big businesses. Often perpetuates the assumption that everyone is straight and or wants a partner (so kind of erases aromantic and other queer people). We should care about people we love every day. Painful for people who have suffered loss or who are lonely. Suggests that romantic love is the best kind of love, like friendship and stuff are pretty great too.

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

There seems to be two sentiments here, that v-day is a bit of a hallmark holiday that is just an excuse to spend heaps of money but also that it can be really nice to appreciate the people we love and care about. It's a pretty conficting concept i guess it kind of summarises the positve and negatives. Its nice to get spoilt sometimes but maybe it would be just as valuable if not more valuable if it was done randomly on another day when you're not expecting it? Also i dont like how it makes some of my friends feel, like if they dont have someone they're missing out. 

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

What do you think are some positive and negative aspects of Valentines day?

Positives
- Its a great reason to remind your significant other or those in your life of how much you love and appreciate them
- I've found that in some communities it evokes a certain atmosphere of admiration and appreciation for one another
- Presents
- Chocolate 

 

Negatives
- Someone said something about it accentuating gender roles in our society
- People feeling obliged to go to great lengths to express their love for someone when it could be as simple as telling them
- It can cause people who are insecure or sad about being single or having lost someone to be upset
- Dark chocolate
- Flowers die eventually

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

What do you think are some positive and negative aspects of Valentines day?

 

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  • Like has been said, it gives people the chance to accent their appreciation for each other
  • Cheap chocolate
  • Can be an opportunity to spoil ones partner in a way that you might only be able to do every so often
  • Bees

 

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  • Can make people feel left out or lonely
  • Is one of those commercialised holidays (i feel like that's spelt wrong...)
  • You should show appreciation for your partner every day, not just the 14th of feb

 

There are probably others, I just can't think of them rn Smiley Tongue

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

'Cheap chocolate' seems to be a fairly universal positive Smiley Tongue

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

What do you think are some positives and negatives from Valentines Day?

I think we lowkey answered this in our last question ahahhahaha so I'm gonna do the negatives side this round since I think I kinda did some of the positives on the last question.

 

Honestly when Valentines Day comes around theres always posts and memes going around saying how single people are gonna be lonely and sit around drinking alcohol by themselves which is perceived as 'depressing' which I think is a load of bs and shows how much emphasis society puts on romantic relationships.

I think it's ridiculous that our society makes it seem as if single people are 'lost' or 'incomplete' without a partner when really we're all complete people. It also kinda ties back in to why we even have Valentines day in the first place? Like couples already have their anniversary to celebrate whats the point of Valentines?

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

Pro's

  •  Cheap Chocolate ...

 

Con's -

  • Reminder of what people don't have
  • Over-the-top romantic gestures
  • WAY too much PDA!
  • Can make you feel lonely and other negative emotions

 


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Ah I really like your point about how it makes it seem like people are only complete with a significant other @Jia! It's very accurate. We're not half people until we meet a soulmate or something.

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Re: [CHAT] Valentine's, Schmalentine's

What do you think are some positive and negative aspects of Valentines day?
The positives being how it is a way for couples to spend a day especially for each other.
The negatives being the stress that it can put on couples, the "expectations" and whether or not they hit them.

@Stealth_ninja I find the heavy (darn what's the word?) emphasis on romance and the need to have a relationship (honestly, in school I always felt so alone when I never got anything. Because everyone treated it so highly, and to get nothing was rather upsetting to a kid)
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