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Re: [Chat] Forever alone :(

@roseisnotaplant it is a bit scary! 

 

@j95 i see you have usrvived your near death training experience!

 

Hey @DruidChild! Good to see you, it feels like i haven't been online in ages! 

 

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Re: [Chat] Forever alone :(

@roseisnotaplant That's a really good point that loneliness can depend on the people around you as well as being internal

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wow, @Ben-RO i didnt know about those terms myself, its sort of reassuring to know that loneliness is being taken seriously enough for those names to be made. i used to feel quite odd feeling lonely when i was surrounded by friends, but its true, that connection is so important.

 

Can you be with people and still feel lonely?

 

well, i certainly have. i think we have all really recognised this already; that being lonely isnt always about physically being the only one around. loneliness is the lack of shared experiences, understanding and connection with others, whether they are there with you or not. its a tricky thing, loneliness. 

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Yeah you definitely can be with people and feel lonely, that could happen because you don't feel safe, comfortable or valued around those people, you can feel disconnected.
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How do you stop yourself from talking to ex because you're lonely?

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@roseisnotaplant exactly!!! its not always as easy as us lacking connection, a lot of times in life we might find ourselves surrounded by people we dont really understand or get along with, and this can be a huge source of loneliness too. thats a good way of thinking about the causes of loneliness,  its not always us, or them, but a mix of the two and the situation!

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Oh yeah barely @Ben-RO I can't move!
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Haven't seen you around in ages @Ben-RO
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Loneliness to me is feeling alone no matter if you are with people or just by yourself

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Can you be with people and still feel lonely?

 

I definitely think you can, and I think @Ben-RO raised an interesting point about social isolation. Sometimes it can seem like the people you are hanging out with have closer relationships with each other than you do with them, which can only amplify any feelings of loneliness that we might be having. It's also pretty reassuring to know that (from this thread so far) feeling lonely around other people is super common!

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