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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

I'm really not sure about the answer to the this question
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@roseisnotaplant that has to be the best entry into a forum I've ever read Smiley Very Happy
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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

@Alison5 that's a really cool way of noticing and working through that! 

 

Something I always find tricky (perhaps because of bad experiences) is practicing compassion with myself. Basically a lot of the time i can be pretty hard on myself and i have to remember that I am actually doing the best I can and that's pretty damn awesome. Is there anything you do to practice compassion for yourself? Sorry if that's a weird question Smiley Tongue 

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Thanks @StarLord, I try Smiley Very Happy

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@Ben-RO positive self-talk and rewarding yourself for achieving goals or doing well.
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@Ben-RO @Alison5
I've found it helpful sometimes to practice compassion on myself by thinking "if my good friend were in my shoes, what would I say to him/her?"
I really believe the world would be a lot more compassionate if we treated ourselves the way we treat our best friends.
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I practice compassion with myself but looking at things I have done in the past and how far I have comes, it makes me feel good about myself and makes me proud
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What are some things to help us notice  or be mindful of our reaction to a situation and how old experiences are influencing it? 

 

For me it's all about mindfulness. I had to learn what chilled out @Ben-RO is like before I could notice when I was not being chilled out and doing something like worrying about ancient history. So that meant doing lots of mindfulness exercises like mindful eating, mindful listening and mindfulness meditation too. 

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I definitely agree @StarLord but I can definitely do some more practice around this!
We are our own worst critiques!
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Something I love doing for compassion is thinking about what I would say to someone I really cared about who was in my situation, which is often not anywhere near as nice as I am being to myself about whatever the tough time is. 

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