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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

I agree with @lokifish sometimes through text is easier for than a phone call or face to face especially about a tough topic, at least online or in a text I can walk away or turn my phone off and like bail out of the convo
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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

@Stealth_ninja the Internet definitely helps! I know I share stuff on here before I feel comfortable sharing it with people in real life

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Ooooh so knowing you can bail helps? Makes sense, it means that you kind of have a way of protecting yourself from the potentially bad experiences, so you don't worry about them as much? Would that work as a technique for offline situations? Like if we have an exit strategy does that help us not feel like we have to flee? 

 

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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

Really can't do it tonight, sorry guys.

Take care.
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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

@Ben-RO I know that'd probably help me, but what would an exit strategy look like in an offline situation? Literally getting up and walking away from the conversation?

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All the best @FootyFan26 Smiley Happy

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That's alright footy @FootyFan26 you can always jump on later and have a read, add something on later!

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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

Yep, that could be one @lokifish 

Guess it depends on the situation!

You could also do something like get comfortable with sharing with someone you trust over time. Maybe test the waters a little before diving into the whole conversation?

 

I am not sure about this whole strange idea of mine as a strategy, so I'm keen to hear what people think!

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I know for me I have an exit strategy in most things @Ben-RO it helps me to know I can get out of a situation quickly and how I can do that
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Re: [Chat] Overcoming bad experiences.

This is something I still struggle with soooo much! :/
But I have also improved a hell of a lot!
On the build up to talking with my Mum for example, I set myself a goal to aim for I.e I want to disclose everything to get it off my chest and one to settle for I.e I at least want to express my feelings.
I promise myself I will do this and when I do, I like to treat myself to something. If I don't, I agree that next time I have to achieve 2 set goals.
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