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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse)

@scared01 how are you feeling this evening?

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse)

hey @Bree-RO

 

im ok i guess...

just feeling very low at the moment and struggling with this and a few other things

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@scared01 could you set aside some worry time tomorrow, and for now do something relaxing before bed? What do you enjoy doing that doesn't require a tonne of energy? i.e. for me it's writing, reading and listening to podcasts.

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@Bree-RO

 

i dont really know, ive just been studying this afternoon.

im so exhausted i dont know what to do with myslef

i think i might take my sleeping tablets and turn in for an early nigtht

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@scared01 how'd you go getting some sleep? Studying can definitely be exhausting, especially if you're having to care for someone else at the same time

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Hi @lokifish
Full of nightmares so didn't sleep that much.
Yeah i find everything to be hard atm .
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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse)

Hey @scared01 sorry to hear about the nightmares. Hope you're able to get a better sleep tonight.

Have you been able to do anything relaxing today? 

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hey @letitgo no i havent done anything relaxing.

 

ive been flat out all day, starting with feeding and working clients horses, caring for pop, doing house work and washing, caring for my sisters, doing our horses and paddock cleaning, mroe housework and now abit of study

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@Bree-RO @Sally-RO

 

 

can you please help me!?

 

when all this abuse was happening, at one point i thought i was pregnant and it got me really worried and i cant seem to get it out of my mind of what i would have had to do, none of the options would have been easy esp since i was only 16.
it really scares me everyday and i dont know how to put it aside, it jsut really has me freaked out and jsut brings all those dirty feleings and weird feeling inside me back up

 

do you have any advice?

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse)

Hey @scared01 Bree and Sally aren't online tonight but I'd like to respond to you. I've read your posts in this thread to get a better sense of what you're going through. It sounds like to me when the abuse was happening, the part of you that felt that fear needs looking after. It's very common for parts of us to be frozen in the past when there has been trauma. I get the sense there's a feeling of helplessness that's overwhelming. And yes during that time you really were not sure of who to go to for help. That's okay. It's not your fault what happened to you and it's also okay that you didn't know exactly how you would've gotten help in case you'd been pregnant. Can you try and connect with that part of you and let them know that you know how to get help now and that you are already getting the help you need? Reassure that part that the abuse was never their fault, that you are there for them and you are not helpless anymore. You can try writing this out. It's just a suggestion. Also, try a grounding strategy to bring yourself back to the here and now (like the Breathe app). 

 

Can you please tell me if you have a counsellor or a psychologist that you are seeing to deal with what you've experienced? Regular therapy will be most beneficial, along with strategies that you can use when feeling overwhelmed and anxious. 

 

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