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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse)

@Bree-RO i would prefer to talk to the person whos going to be doing the exam rather than some random person thats why i was thinking about going in for a appointment just based on questions

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@scared01 fair enough, you need to feel comfortable.

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Why wont this dirty feeling stop Smiley Sad i cant get it off
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Sounds like you're not feeling great @scared01. What could you do to get through this? Smiley Happy

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i dont know @letitgo

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Hey @scared01,

 

I've just read this thread in its entirety and I just want to say that you are brave and not alone.

 

I too am a survivor of sexual assault. It took me 4 years to even admit that it had happened to me and 6 months of intense therapy before I was able to disclose it to someone. This disclosure happened right as I was finishing up with my psychologist, so they referred me to my local sexual assault unit. (I live in NSW, so not sure if it is a nationwide thing, but you can self-refer).

 

Here they focused on my legacies (symptoms of being stuck in the flight/fight/freeze response) and helped my pick up on signs that one of them was about to happen and my immediate triggers. I also found it helpful to have a self-care activity planned straight after my sessions, as a way to calm me down.

 

If you don't want to talk about the actual assault, you don't have to, but they are will to listen if you want to.

 

Privacy there is second to none. The receptionists had no clue who I was, I just told them who I was there to see. If you choose to go down the legal path, your counsellor will guide you through, escort you to appointments and such.

 

3 years after my disclosure, I still suffer from the odd flashbacks, nightmares and avoidance of places that remind me of the assault, but they a few and far between except around anniversaries. Having said that, they are a lot easier to manage and I can plan around my anniversary dates.

 

I hope sharing a little of my story will help you with yours.

You are strong.

 

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thaks for reading my entire thread @stonepixie

sorry you were abused too.

 

im seeing a psychologist as well already jsut havent gotten to the abuse yet, im still sorking on SH and SI and anxiety and depression and grief and another ptsd event as well

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You're still discussing important things, @scared01 and it's impossible to do it all at once. Good on your for discussing what you already have. Therapy takes a lot of courage!

 

As it has been mentioned before in this thread, when we start processing a traumatic experience, we can feel worse before we get better. Has your psych explained to you the theory behind why people develop PTSD, and how you treat it?

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thanks @JanaG yeah they have explained it and ive discovered that its complex PTSD so its going to take longer to get through as well as woring with my anxiety and depression as well so again longer .  im trying to get into victims of crime psych provider as it makes it abit more cheaper for me for a while and they specialise in Sexual abuse as well so im thinking thats a better option for me

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it sounds like you've investigated your options which is really good @scared01, hope you're able to get onto one of those specialist providers!

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