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Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

@Ben-RO it's a nice notion that one day we may not have to invite in anyone, where these sorts of things are considered normal (which they are). But I think so long as the norm is heterosexuality, and gender binary, then there may always have to be some process of inviting in- but hopefully it'll be SO much easier.

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

Some challenges people face is judgement from those they let in. And rejection if there is a disagreement. It can cause stress and worry and hurt.

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

@OceanMaster1207 a good point! What I'm wondering now is: Assume we kick the heteronormative culture (Heteronormative is a fancy way of saying that people assume straight is all there is). Now even if people can be whatever they want to be, and it's all good no matter what, will we still want to invite people in to share our identity?  

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

@OceanMaster1207 I want that too. I mean, just telling someone that "I'm gender neutral" or so and so when you've decided that and it to be a "alrighty mighty, what do you want to be called?" Just a calm, relaxed response.

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

This website is so awesome @N1ghtW1ng !!!

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

What do you mean by that @Ben-RO?

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

What are some of the challenges people face when inviting people in?

 

There are too many to count! Feeling ashamed and different, not having support, being kicked out of home, having to justify or explain, being physically or emotionally hurt by others. So I think it's important to try and get a sense of your own individual safety if you are to invite someone in. What support do you have? Are the people you're telling likely to be accepting (very hard to know sometimes)?

Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

I think so @Ben-RO. There will always be some parts of us that we only like to share with important, trusted people. And that is what makes it special.
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Re: [Special guest] Twenty10 talks about coming out.

OMG @N1ghtW1ng that website is awesome! Smiley Very Happy