@Lex wrote:
@Sophie-RO wrote:
When is a good time to have an ‘are you ok?’ chat?
If I'm the one needing the chat, the sooner the better. I don't usually reveal anything *during* the chat but it makes me reflect on myself a bit later. That's usually the booster I need to get myself back on track.
Because of that, I'm not afraid to ask someone straight up, as soon as I see them, if everything is okay. But only if we're alone. I don't want them to feel embarrassed in front of others.
Maybe someone else can give me some advice there: am I doing something wrong by asking straight away?
Reflecting later on is a really great point! If you ask someone and they don't really respond, this is a great thing to remember! 
Being aware of embarassment is important but I definitely think it's best to ask whenever you can if you are really concerned!
@_sagira_ wrote:
Also it can sometimes be hard to know if someone is screaming inside and all they want to do is talk. I am very, very good at putting on an 'everything's cool' facade. Sometimes you need to be attuned to peoples signals, with their subtle hints etc.
Ah yes! The "everything's cool" facade, it's quite a skill huh! It can get exhausting after awhile though. I think we can all relate to that one at some stage in our lives..
@Sophie-RO wrote:
@_sagira_ wrote:
Also it can sometimes be hard to know if someone is screaming inside and all they want to do is talk. I am very, very good at putting on an 'everything's cool' facade. Sometimes you need to be attuned to peoples signals, with their subtle hints etc.
Ah yes! The "everything's cool" facade, it's quite a skill huh!
Yeah I have to agree with this. I am very very good at keeping up a facade if I need to. And if that doesn't work, I'm really good at dismissing the issue or coming up with something like making a joke to change the subject.
Persistence is the key with me. I'm like a piñata… it'll take more than just one jab, but once you've cracked me open, all the goodies will come tumbling out! 
Lex wrote: Yeah I have to agree with this. I am very very good at keeping up a facade if I need to. And if that doesn't work, I'm really good at dismissing the issue or coming up with something like making a joke to change the subject.Persistence is the key with me. I'm like a piñata… it'll take more than just one jab, but once you've cracked me open, all the goodies will come tumbling out!
Oh, Lex the Pinata - maybe that should be your new avatar! Full of lollies!
@Lex wrote:Yeah I have to agree with this. I am very very good at keeping up a facade if I need to. And if that doesn't work, I'm really good at dismissing the issue or coming up with something like making a joke to change the subject.
Persistence is the key with me. I'm like a piñata… it'll take more than just one jab, but once you've cracked me open, all the goodies will come tumbling out!
haha...Lex I love your anaolgy. It's so true. It's like you're just waiting for someone to show enough interest so you can start!
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