originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:32 PM

Ahh, this is really heartfelt and wise. Exactly my advice: There is no rush!

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:24 PM

I think because its society’s way of gauging how well someone is doing, how accomplished they are and how well comparatively they are doing to others. But society doesn’t know you or your struggles, or goals. Someone may compare themselves to you, not knowing how much you have overcome to get where you are. For instance, there’s an analogy where someone looks at the size of a giant iceberg and thinks “wow they’re so successful” what they don’t see is everything that’s under the water. The struggles, the cost, the obstacles, the pain…

We like to compare and we like to make ourselves feel better about where we are in life. And I think that’s why we “think” success matters so much. What’s most important is yourself and doing what makes you happy and what you need to have a good life.

originally posted on 10-01-2022 3:22 PM

I agree with you there @Jords_km and social media can play a huge role as well with comparing ourselves to other people. Success means something different to each individual person. 

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:29 PM

I love what you said! You can't tell everything about a person just by looking at them.

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:31 PM

Exactly! I have been judged so many times for where I'm at, but no one knows what it's taken to get there, what I've overcome just to even still be here today. 

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:29 PM

I feel like we, as humans, are wired to compare things. Obviously it's handy for many situations but, as with anything, it has its place.

I LOVE your analogy. It reminds me of all the previous sayings on viewing successful people like "Don't judge someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes" or "You don't need to always understand who they are now but rather the person who made it all the way here". (I think I might've botched those quotes from memory lol)

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:33 PM

I'm so glad! I LOVE analogies and quotes. They are honestly the best. One today that I read is "One day you will tell your story of how you overcome what you went through, and it will be someone else's survival guide" ❤️

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:32 PM

Haha yeah, we definitely are wired to compare things. I think the core of the matter is that no one really knows what they're doing, every single thing that makes up our experience is crafted by other people.

Love that analogy too @Jords_km! Exactly right. And I love that quote too, sometimes I think I'm not succeeding for taking longer to graduate but on the other hand I'm doing SO WELL getting so far with the hand I've been dealt!

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:37 PM

If I could like this a million times I would. I feel you. I am 26 and everyone I know has pretty much gotten married and graduated and is well and truly on a different path to me. But if you look at things in perspective, your path soundly like it hasn't been easy, and you've had boulders to overcome and so you're doing amazingly to be where you are. 

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:27 PM

But society doesn’t know you or your struggles, or goals.

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:17 PM

Success to me is having the confidence to make the choices I want to make in my own life. It’s not about what other people think, the job you work, the money you earn, or what other people think you should be doing. Success is what you want it to be, and success is different for every person.

Success for you might be to get good grades, travel the world, work a job, start a family, or do the things that make you happy. Don’t let anyone else stop you from making your own choices.

For me, I do what makes me happy. That has involved changing jobs, learning new sports, taking a break when needed, and even starting from scratch. It keeps me excited for the new things I will try!

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:20 PM

I love this!! It really sounds like your sense of success comes from staying true to who you are and what you want in life 😊

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:26 PM

Definitely! I have had a lot of people give me advice over the years. Some of it I incorporate into my life and other times I don't think it is the best advice for me. Either way, I trust my gut feeling to make the best decision for me at this point in time 😎

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:20 PM

> I do what makes me happy

I love this. I feel like when some people start getting older, they think responsibility or maturity somehow equates to doing something for what everyone defines as "success" rather than prioritizing something that makes them happy.

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:23 PM

I wholeheartedly agree with this. Do what makes you happy! 🙌

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:21 PM

Absolutely agree. There's a shift to comparing yourself with others and where they are at in life 

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:11 PM

I think success to me is feeling a sense of achievement and accomplishment within yourself. Success is always going to look different for everyone, but the most important person to consider is yourself. Success also doesn’t always have to be something huge. Some days, success will look like you getting out of bed, brushing your teeth and having some breakfast. Other days, success may be finishing an assignment or going for a walk. Success can be viewed in many different ways. But if you feel proud of something, and have accomplished something you set out to do, no matter the size, then that is success to me!!

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:26 PM

I love this so much! Success can look differently on different days, and there can be big and small successes! Definitely relate that some days success is getting out of bed, other days it's getting a new job! 

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:13 PM

Hi @Jords_km! Thanks for being with us tonight!
I agree that success is something that looks different for everyone. The world would be a boring place if everyone did the same thing as each other.

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:15 PM

I absolutely agree! Comparison is the thief of joy.

originally posted on 31-08-2021 7:13 PM

Well said!! I totally agree with you and in particular love this: the most important person to consider is yourself. That is so very true, success is a personal thing and that is so good to call out.