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Coming out to a friend

Hi. I'm a 15 yr old bi guy. I like one of my best friends but haven't told anyone that I'm bi yet. I don't know if he's bi either. He has dated girls before but not for a while and we've been sort of touchy/flirty for a while. He's also going to a different school next year (still in the same town). I want to tell him but I've been too scared to, even though he is completely fine with gay/bi people etc. and we both have multiple friends who identify as bi. What should I do?

Re: Coming out to a friend

Hey @RemyIsAwesome123, nice to meet you! That sounds like a tricky situation, especially as you're friends - it can be hard sometimes to tell if a mate is just being friendly or if he's into you. I get that - I was in a similar situation myself not too long ago, so please don't feel that you're alone! If you want my advice, I reckon you should come out to him (if that's something you're comfortable doing, no pressure, just go at your own pace! xx) and see how he reacts. That can be pretty telling about how he feels. Another thing to think about before you tell him is probably whether or not it's worth the risk, if you know what I mean. Like I have a crush on one of my best friends at the moment, but I don't want to tell her because for me, I hate the idea of making things awkward or even pushing her away a bit way more than I love the idea of us being together, if that makes sense? But! That doesn't mean you shouldn't tell your friend how you feel! It certainly could work out for you guys - it sounds like you might both be in the same place, which is pretty awesome. I reckon start by coming out and seeing how that goes (: 
Hope this helps, good luck! xxx

Re: Coming out to a friend

That's great advice @TawnyOwl and @RemyIsAwesome123 good luck, I hope it goes well

Re: Coming out to a friend

Hey @RemyIsAwesome123!

That sounds a little tricky, but I think @TawnyOwl gave some great advice! 

Coming out is something everyone does at their own pace when they feel comfortable to do so and when they think they're ready. I'm really happy for you that your friend is supportive of gay/bi people. It'll probably help make it a little easier to tell him. At the end of the day, do it when you feel most ready. You got this! Wishing you only the best Heart

Re: Coming out to a friend

Hi @RemyIsAwesome123, I reckon you can tell him about your feelings as well. It might be a little bit embarrassed and tricky, but if you speak out, at least you won't regret that you do not tell him about your feelings. But if depends on his personality and the worst situation, if you reckon that he will be fine with your feelings and will not react negatively (or might influence the friendship), then I think you should go and tell him because liking someone is not a bad thing for both you two.