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Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Thanks @Birdeye for tagging me.

At the moment I'm in year 12 doing the HSC (in NSW) and I'm struggling to make myself to study. Even though my parents keep reminding me that it's okay as long as I try my best, I know that they have certain expectations of me. I feel like I am going to let them down- especially with what ATAR I get. Most my cousins did really well in the HSC, and got ATAR's in the 90s. Also my parents both did really well in their high school exams and it just feels a like lot to live up to.

 

Everything is just really confusing and stressful at the moment. Everyone keeps asking what I plan to do with my life- but I'm not sure and terrified that I'll make the wrong decisions.

I don't won't to be stuck in a job I hate, but at the same time I don't want to disappoint any one.

I am just so indecisive and unmotivated at the moment.

 

I've moved around a lot in my life, but up until a few years ago, I had always lived in cities. Though now I live in the country and I often feel so isolated and alone and away from everything. I can't walk down the street and catch a bus anymore. The only way to get anywhere is if my parents drive me- and they are often really busy (not to mention they have 3 other kids to look after). I just wish I could get out of my house more often. Sometimes I feel really trapped and just want to get away from home for a while.

 

 

 

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

hey @Jardin thank you for sharing, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

 

I'm not in the exact same boat as you as i'm only in year 11 but I can definitely relate to most of the things you are saying. I have 2 older siblings and one of them got an OP 3, so I have high standards to live up to. Anyway I completely feel the same way about the future, I know exactly where you're coming from it's scary deciding something that you will have to do "the rest of your life". 

 

But on a much happier note I hope you know that there are so many pathways to get into what you want to do and so many people change their mind during courses and they switch and that's totally ok you can do that if you ever want to. 

 

I see you mentioned that you don't know what it is you want to do and it's so hard especially at this age to pick a career choice that you will want to do in the future. The only advice I can give you is to find what makes you happy or what your passionate about and follow that, make a career out of it. Smiley Happy 

 

Also If you ever get the urge to get out of the house then go for a walk or run around or near the house, sometimes fresh air can be amazing.

 

Anyway sorry for rambling on hope I helped. Smiley Happy

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Thanks @hmm789, you did help Smiley Happy

Its quite relieving that there are other people experiencing very similar things to me- even though I wouldn't want anyone to feel this way. 

I am the oldest out of 4, so I wouldn't know what its like to have two older siblings, but it seems like a lot of pressure.

Also I have to say I am so glad that there are different pathways to get where we want to these days. A part of me is still really scared that all the doors will shut on me- or that people will look down on me for taking certain pathways. But guess its better than if there were no alternatives at all.

 

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Hi @Jardin,

 

I feel the same, I love it when people can understand what I'm going through but its also disheartening because you know how shit it feels and you would never wish that on anyone else.

 

Yeah it's amazing, my friends mum is in her 50's and she has gone back to Uni to study and get a qualification in a field she is really interested in so it's never too late Smiley Happy

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Hey @hmm789, that's so cool how your mum's friend went back to do a course. It just shows that you can always go to back to uni, if you really want to. 

I heard somewhere that people these days are changing careers/jobs around 5 times in their lifetime. I don't know if it is actually true, but it seems reasonable because I have heard/known of many people who have switched jobs.

Anyways, sorry for the late reply- I have been bombarded with heaps of schoolwork lately- just trying to stay afloat.

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Hey! I am in Year 10 (just by the way!)

 

So it is coming close to exam week... ugh

 

And I have tried quite hard not to procrastinate but it has got the better of me. 

 

Luckily I still have a week to try and get organised before I get slapped with exams.

 

So does anybody have any tips on ways not to procrastinate? So I can get organised and study and finish assignments. Or just like any studying tips that have helped you really well.

 

Cause I find it extremely hard to sit down and do assignments, homework or study (especially since it is pretty boring)

 

Thanks for listening/reading!

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Ah exams, @Bubblycoco Smiley Tongue
To be honest, the best advice I can give on procrastination is just starting (which is terrible advice Smiley Tongue) When I try to tackle my assignments, I like to outline them, which helps me really know what the heck I have to actually do. It makes writing a large assignment more like doing several small activities. I also tend to put on a music playlist or a tv show or movie I've seen a dozen times already as a background to keep that distractable part of my brain distracted so the rest of me can focus on writing my assignments Smiley Tongue

This might sound a bit silly, but knowing what you're studying is really helpful too. Setting out what you're actually studying so you know what you're looking for and such (like key words you're focusing on). It kind of changes studying Science to studying Sound, Light and Forces (or whatever it is Smiley Tongue).

The last idea is to try everything. There's lots of online resources (namely google) that have so many articles on tips to study and so on. Something will work Smiley Tongue Good luck!

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

School has just started again and I feel the huge pressure of it all again. I try to come home and do work, but I find I am always so tired. I don't know why, but on school days I'm just so exhausted and don't feel like I have the energy to do anything.
And I hate this, because I really need to work hard in the afternoons, so I feel so disappointed when I don't.

I want to go to Uni and I want to get a good job, but sometimes I just get so scared... I don't want to be working all the time. I want to be able to have a few days break, and do stuff I enjoy.
Sometimes it feels like my whole life will be like this- endless amounts of work.

 

 

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

OMG! I completely get that. You don't want to fail and become one of those cashiers at McDonalds but the ever-mounting pressure that surrounds you by teachers, friends and parents is overwhelming. You just loose all energy to want to do anything

Re: High School Student Support Squad!

Hey @Jardin, sounds like you're feeling pretty drained at the moment, am I right?

I think school can be exhausting for a variety of reasons (e.g. I'm an introvert, and I find the constant social interaction depletes my energy a fair bit). No matter the reason, we'll try to support you as much as we can.

I get the sense that you're super motivated about school, because you want to go to uni and get a job, but the prospect of all work and no play isn't exactly a nice one...

You definitely deserve a few days' break, and to get to do stuff that you enjoy.

For the moment, do you think it could be about making time to do those things? If so, how do you think you could do that?

e.g. I enjoy writing, and sometimes I'll get up a bit earlier or stay up a bit later to get some writing done 

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