I need help
Ive got a friend who has said that he doesn’t want to be friends because I apparently I have a shitty attitude towards life. I don’t think I do but if I do I have good reasons for my attitude. Can anyone give me some advice on how to deal with this.
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Hey @Vivian13, just wanted to check in. Have you spoken to this friend in the last few days?
Looking forward to hearing from you! 🙂
@Vivian13 @dog_lover94 @letitgo
I am currently having trouble with a friend myself
Not because of the same reasons as you however I do know that you just need to remember that it's not your fault you are not friends anymore that it is possibly his miss-understanding. You just need to be yourself and if people can't understand that then that's on them. You never need to stop being YOU!
Hope all is well for yo at moment
Hi @Vivian13
Just checking in to see how are you going? How have the last few weeks been since we last spoke?
I have a problem involving everyone i know. Because of everything thats happened to me everyone thinks its ok to treat me like a child and im really sick of it. Everyone tries to do everything for me, they are always saying thier worried about me and they always say im prone to making bad decisions. Someone give me advice please.
Hey @Vivian13, thanks for reaching out to the forums for support. I hope we can be of some assistance for you 🙂
It sounds like it would be really frustrating to have everyone in your life treat you like a child and tell you that you make bad decisions. I'm curious about why they might think that about you, and I'm wondering if you've ever tried to talk to them about how their behaviour makes you feel, can you tell me more about that? 🙂
because Ive had some things happen to me and they think i cant cope with it.
// When love is real it finds a way //
Hey @Vivian13,
It sounds like the people in your life care about you and are just trying to help even though you don't feel like they are. If you don't mind me asking, what were the things that lead to everyone treating you like this?
harder to cope.
That's completely okay. There's no pressure at all.
Do you have any self care strategies that you use when you are feeling like you aren't coping well?
Hi @Vivian13! How are you going? I'm sorry about all the problems you've been having with people being overprotective of you. This can feel so overwhelming and overbearing. 
If you're in need of additional self care strategies, there is a really great thread full of ideas over here.
I'm here for you if you want to talk about it some more, or anything at all. 
Hey @Vivian13
I'm glad you've come here to vent your frustration around people treating you like a child. It feels good to be trusted to make good decisions and it's fair that you'd like that from your loved ones. I've noticed that you've said you don't really have some self care tools to assist you when you're feeling this way.
There's an article here I thought you might like to read. It's got some pointers on ways to look after yourself. We can't always control how other people treat us, but we can make choices about how we treat ourselves
Hey @Vivian13
That sounds frustrating. Is it both your friends and family treating you like this? Have you tried to tell them that you don't like it? Maybe if they knew how you feel they would stop treating you like a child.
Is there something in particular that makes them worried about you? Talking the situation out may help to alleviate their concerns about you and then the behaviours could stop.
Hi @Vivian13,
That wouldn't have been a nice thing to hear. Did you friend elaborate on what they mean by that?
It can be hard when your are having trouble with friends but I have found that having a conversation about what's troubling both of you can really help get everything out in the open to mend the friendship.
