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Isolation after finishing school?

So I have recently finished year 12 and have decided to have a gap year as to figure out what exactly I want to study the following year, and to make some money at my job in the mean time for it. For the most part its been really refreshing, My sister is still going to school and my parents to work on weekdays so most of the time I have the house to myself.

 

The only thing is, despite having many friends that are also having gap years and staying in my home town, I haven’t made many plans with many of them yet. And when I did, it was almost a little awkward like we didn’t know what to talk about since nothing has been happening for us after school ended. Its also hard to think of different things we can do together as when I was in school their was plenty going on in my life and it felt natural talking about classes and things like that. During lunch and recess we were all forced to hang out and at school we had plenty to do so that also kept us doing things together. But when theirs no school, Its hard to figure out where to go and what to do with friends now, granted when I was going to school I didn’t go out that often with my friends outside of school. For about 2 or 3 weeks now I haven’t really left the house (apart from going to work) or gone out with any friends/had any friends over and I’m feeling pretty isolated because of it. All I’ve been doing is playing video games, drawing pictures and watching movies/youtube videos so as you can imagine It’s leaving me feeling pretty depressed about myself. Even when given the opportunity to go to a party a couple days ago I declined saying I didn’t feel like partying when really that night I was worried I should have gone as I had literally nothing else to do. I’ve been staying up really late (up to 4-5am) and sleeping in till midday-3pm, waking up to soon get ready for work that ushually starts around 5pm. I’m worried I’m the boring person in this situation and thats why hanging out with my friends feels so lifeless, I feel like I was a lot happier and social during year 12 though as their was a lot more going on in my life so their was plenty to talk about and do with friends. I went to parties and had some sleepovers with friends every once in a while too. It doesn’t help that one of my closest friends that I never had trouble talking to for hours on end, from year 12 has gone and started uni in another city and hasn’t really replied to my texts yet. (Well only one text, I’m kinda worried I will annoy her by being too clingy as shes only just started uni) Shes very outgoing and would probably be really busy and has already made lots of friends at uni as I see via social media.

 

I guess I’m just asking if anyone can share if they have had a similar experience when having a break from school, or after finishing school. And how they overcame it. In the past I have developed kinda depression (its not diagnosed but I started feeling very gloomy and sad) during the school breaks where I didn’t socialise or catch up with friends for a log period of time. So I hope this gap year doesn’t turn into a very sad year for me. (Sorry this post is so long too, thanks for reading)

Re: Isolation after finishing school?

Hi @anonymousgirl101

I felt like this for a very long time when I finished TAFE, or in fact whenever I finish working at a job! A great kick-starter for me was travelling, not so much in making friends but gaining the confidence to socialise with people I've never met, and with people from different backgrounds. Now, I look for clubs related to work or hobbies and make a lot of friends, I have made so many friends through dog training, art & gyms! We always have something to bond over and tend to vibe with people better. Putting yourself out there is fantastic, and I generally find that everybody is always looking to make a new friend.

I find that keeping a good sleeping schedule helps sooooo much, and a very basic 'routine' (took me WAY to long to figure that one out ahaha). I find it best when I'm less-stimulated to always wake up at the same time, but I usually stay up however long I feel I need but always get up at the same time nevertheless. I usually work on some sort of project, whether it be educational, purposeful or simply fun! You can also use this as 'continuous improvement and learning' on your resume and in job interviews Smiley Tongue

Getting outdoors for a little bit every day helps so much too, my favourite is waking up, making a tea and walking my giant Saint Bernard for 10 minutes to go drink off everybody sprinklers on their front lawns ahah, wakes me up with a laugh.

Re: Isolation after finishing school?

@anonymousgirl101

Hey! Congratulations on finishing year 12! It's such a refreshing feeling, especially that you have gap year to look forward to.

I personally havent taken gap year, but I felt the same kind of emotions transitioning from College to university. It's a different kind of lifestyle, but it's also a good time to learn different things, and experience more around you. I did this through university but I joined all the social clubs and stuck with the ones that I liked, and I made so many different friends so it was a nice way to meet people.
I guess being commitment free, you could try volunteer around for some things or see whats out there that might take your fancy?
Is there something that you can join in your community perhaps? Get outside of the house for a little bit and see if that helps you feel less isolated?

Re: Isolation after finishing school?

Hi @anonymousgirl101

 

I just wanted to catch up and see how things are going now with these feelings and thoughts? Has anything improved or helped? We love to hear updates Smiley Happy

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Re: Isolation after finishing school?

Hey, things are still kind of the same, but i’m feeling a little better recently i think because i’ve been working a little more and I will soon have my license hopefully, so it will be easier to hang out with people Smiley Happy

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@anonymousgirl101 exciting !! Getting a car licence was very liberating for me, Its amazing how many thing become easier when we have access to a car! Such a good feeling, if your test takes a couple of goes don't let it knock you down! (I had to go 3 times, and lots of my friends had to go 4 times!) Each centre was really different, I went to a different centre and passed with flying colours on my last try.

Are you enjoying the work you do? I hope you have some good coworkers that make it enjoyable  Smiley Happy