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Issues with Moving House

Recently my family moved houses and I HATE it. We used to live in a really big place, but our new one is so small and it makes it feel like you can't get away from everyone. You can hear any noise in the house from everywhere and it makes me feel so overwhelmed because it's always loud, especially at night when everyone's home and inside. Sleeping is harder because my parents go to bed later and wake up earlier, and I already have sleeping issues. Most importantly, my old house was home, I've been there most my life and had many holidays, birthdays, and basically all my young childhood memories  there. This new house only has now, and now is anything but good. 

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Hi @Blurryphaced thanks for reaching out. It sounds like moving has been difficult and that you're having a tough time. Change can be tough particularly when it's unwanted. I can see that you really loved your old house and you have many fond memories. I'm wondering what ways you can create some new and positive experiences and memories for the new house? Do you think it's possible to make the most of an undesirable situation? I'm sorry to hear that sleeping has also been so difficult. What are some things you could do to help you sleep better? We're here for you Heart

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Hi @Blurryphaced
I'm sorry to hear you're going through a challenging time.
I know how you feel. I grew up in Canada and in that house I had so many amazing memories so when we moved to Australia it was a bit of a culture shock and I had to get used to being in a new house. We ended up renting so we had to move another two times before buying a place. My mum chose the house that we were going to buy and at first I was shocked because it did not feel like it would be my home, at all!
But I'm happy to say that within a couple of years I grew so attached to the house and it really did feel like home.
I like what @Lan-RO wrote, about being able to make new and positive experiences and memories. I can attest to the fact that this happened to me! Especially since I did not like the house at all when we moved in. To me, home is where your heart is and at first it may feel weird but do you think you will be able to settle and create new memories/experiences?
I read somewhere that sometimes it takes a couple of months to settle. We're here for you though as you progress through this process. Heart

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I understand you. I spent my childhood in a small house where the walls were like cardboard. I even could hear a knock on the door, though I was at the end of the house. I have the same problems with sleep as you have, I am very sensitive in my sleep and it is very easy to wake me up. I suggest you to move out from your parents and start renting an apartment yourself. When I had my 18 I moved out.

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Hi @Blurryphaced, I'm sorry this is happening to you Smiley Sad I also struggle to sleep at night and what has helped me is putting on white noise, having complete darkness (using an eye-mask) and also having natural sleeping aids to help me. My friend wears earplugs. I'm wondering if there's any way you could make your house feel more homely. Could adding a pet or some house plants or old furniture or new artworks, decor etc. in your room and elsewhere help?

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hi @Blurryphaced! thanks for reaching out. It definitely sounds like a tough situation to be in, and I’ve been in the same boat when I lived at home - walls were like paper, couldn’t have a low volume convo on the phone at night without my mum telling me to be quiet! 

re the noise and sleeping, are you able to invest in some earplugs? you can get them from the chemist pretty cheaply. alternatively, you could get some noise cancelling earphones and play some relaxing music/rain or nature sounds to help you get to sleep at night (I’m not sure if that’s good for your ears though).

 

how old are you? are you able to move out? that might seem like a dramatic step, but your house is supposed to be the place you can come back to and unwind at, and if you feel like your place is the complete opposite it can take a significant  toll on your mental health

 

hope everything works out❤️