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Petty Fights with Parents

Hi everyone,
I just wanted to create a thread to talk about some silly or petty fights we might have with parents and how we get through them. I'll start:
This morning I was making toast for breakfast and mum wanted to use the toaster for herself. She was running late and needed to use it; but instead of asking she just 'barged' in. While I understand her reasoning, it still annoyed me, plus the stress of exam week added to my reaction as well. The way I sorted it out though was by taking some time for myself and then talking to her about how we can avoid something like that in the future.
Really interested in how you guys deal with this Petty Fights with Parents. Have a great Friday! Smiley Happy
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Hey! I can definitely relate to this one, especially since it's exam period and the general mood of the household isn't that friendly I suppose? 

Recently I got into a little fight with my mum about how she wanted me to take my washing but I just hadn't had the time to in the past couple of days and at the time I was pretty angry considering she knew that I was usually at the library for 12 hours a day even though its something small.

I feel like these scuffles in the end don't impact my relationship with my parents too badly because family Smiley Happy

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I agree @Jia i think particularly if you live with your parents and have done all your life so far, you're bound to rub each other the wrong way every now and again, no matter how much love them.

 

I think this happens a bit more as you get older. For me, I went to boarding school when I was 16 and interestingly i went from feeling pretty damn stressed out by my parents to being pretty happy to hang out with them for a bit...once every three months Smiley Tongue

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All things in moderation, aye @Ben-RO? haha Smiley Tongue

 

 

 

@Jia @tomo_13, I totally know the feeling. It's exams. You're worn out from the stress, and your nerves are shot from spending 12+ hour days staring through pages and pages of notes. Or from running head-first into practice questions that you could've sworn were designed by a sadist who wanted to see you- yes, you- personally suffer. There's no time to spare, and precious little patience to go around. I snapped at my parents just yesterday when they asked me to send some emails for them - and my reaction was basically 

 

glare

 

...only with substantially more shouting and expletives. The furious attempt to eye-laser people's faces off is about the same though.

Honestly, I think these petty fights are fine. God knows my family's forgiven a whole lot worse over the years. We can kick and scream and glare, but so long as everyone still knows that you'd have each other's backs in a heartbeat, it'll work out.

 

 

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My family is close but you're right - just being in the same vicinity so much causes so much pettiness. 

 

Anyway. This wasn't my fight, but I heard about it. We have exchange students staying with us, and at the dinner table one of them asked how to get a boyfriend. Naturally, my 17 year old sister goes to answer but no..... my dad told her she was wrong and HE actually knew the best way. He shot down my sisters attempts to tell him times have changed. I honestly couldn't think of a sillier thing to get upset about but there we go. 

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@tomo_13 thank you for creating this thread!!

I have petty fights with my parents (mostly my mum) ALL THE TIME, and because she and I are both so sensitive, they often get blown out of proportion.

 

It sounds like you were aware of your reaction in that situation, and you managed really well by both communicating with her and taking care of yourself.

 

In the last few years, I've built up the courage to express how I'm feeling to my mum, rather than staying silent and inwardly seething/turning against myself. I've found that regardless of whether my mum accepts what I have to say or invalidates it, I end up feeling proud of myself for speaking up, and more free for having been honest. And, credit where credit is due, mum has been getting better at listening and accepting lately. 

// Spiral outward, keep going. //
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I have just had a fight with my parents and all because they took a response the wrong way!

I mean I love my parents and at the moment living at home is the right thing to do but I clash with my dad quite a bit (similar personalities he doesn't communicate and has been known to take things to the extreme). I think it doesn't help that I have anxiety and they often don't understand what I go through (I really need to forward them to ReachOut parents!) plus being unemployed means that they keep trying push their opinions on me about what I should be doing (which was what the fight was about).

My pysch has told me that if your parents don't screw you up in some sense then they aren't doing their job right haha!

 

 

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Whatever it takes I know I can make it through!
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@letitgo I'm so glad this thread is exactly what you are looking for! It's good to hear that you have that self-confidence to call your mum out on these things; it shows that the relationship is really strong.
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I am definitely guilty of petty fights with my parents. It's usually just yelling about something mundane because I or my parents or both are stressed or tired. We get over it in the end, although they usually sit with me for ages. :/ I'm not the best at handling conflicts Smiley Tongue
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Hey @ErinsAntics I'm sorry to hear that your parents aren't being as understanding as what you want them to be. Perhaps one way it could be fixed would be to take them to one of your counselling sessions so they can see it from your point-of-view? Then that way they may be able to change their habits/the three of you create a plan to soften these arguments? Hope all goes good for you in the future Smiley Very Happy