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Recovery; our journey to well being

 

Hey Guys,

 

So I've been thinking about recovery recently and I really wanted to have a positive thread dedicated to recovery. Where we could discuss (positively) things about recovery we like and what helps us.

 

I was talking with @gina-RO recently and she said I'm of the opinion that "recovery" or "wellbeing" is not a destination at all. It's a pursuit and a journey. This really stuck with me and I realised that she was ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! Recovery is a journey! And I thought a bit about my journey and where I've been and where I'm at and what I have learnt along the way. And I've learnt a lot during my recovery journey. So here is one thing I want to share with you now...

 

One thing I have learnt that I've found very valuable and I think quite applicable to everyone is that mental health symptoms are part and parcel of everyday life. My psychologist has told me that it's not about making the symptoms stop or getting rid of them, but learning to cope with them throughout life. She then had me watch Inside Out! And I must say, that is helped me learn this lesson! Now I won't disclose how I learnt that lesson from the movie just yet because it would spoil the movie for those who haven't seen it! But we can talk about below Smiley Happy

 

 

To start with I have a few questions for you all Smiley Happy (And don't be afraid to ask your questions for the community about recovery too!)

What is one thing you have learnt through your journey of recovery?

How do you keep mentally well?

Do you have a favourite quote or piece of advice that has been given to you?

 


Monday's Getting Real: Coping with Holiday Blues
Don't forget to practice self-care regularly!

Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

I love this thread!!

 

What is one thing you have learnt through your journey of recovery?

That the journey never ends, basically. I'll likely always have some sort of mental illness but as you said, it's about having quality of life despite that! Just like how someone with asthma or diabetes can still live a happy, relatively healthy life - it's possible for mental health conditions too.

 

How do you keep mentally well?

Lots of support (both professional and personal), trying to remain solutions-focused, setting boundaries/knowing my limits, and looking after myself. Eating and sleeping for example are huge factors in getting well and staying well.

 

Do you have a favourite quote or piece of advice that has been given to you?

I have lots. My favourite, though, is the classic Persian saying This too shall pass. The world will keep spinning with or without us - any stuff ups we make are completely insignificant compared to the universe itself

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Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

I think this is a really relevant topic for quite a few of us right now, actually.

 

@scared01 @DruidChild @j95 @redhead @mrmusic @Birdeye @N1ghtW1ng @letitgo anyone wanna share their answers? Heart

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No human being, however great or powerful, was ever so free as a fish

Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

Okay so I've finally worked through everything else and am ready for this post. (until I get distracted again but now that I've started it'll have a draft at least Smiley Tongue)

 

ANYWAY this is an awesome post and so true and important! Thank you for making it! Smiley Happy

 

What is one thing you have learnt through your journey of recovery?

To be totally honest, I can't say that I've really learnt anything stand-out-ish. I learn bits and pieces of things that I can't remember where they came from. Plus, I'm really at the start of my journey, a few actually, but there will be stuff to learn along the way Smiley Happy

(I don't have a squad yet, but hopefully I will Smiley Happy)

How do you keep mentally well?

Leaping down the rabbit hole of my special interest! (LEGO Ninjago Smiley Very Happy) I'm really still working on it. But I find taking the time to chill out and share things too helps. 

(just chillin' out Smiley Tongue)

Do you have a favourite quote or piece of advice that has been given to you?

In all honestly, "Fake it till you make it" has always stuck with me. In the way of, if something makes you nervous, just dive in and pretend you're not. It's okay to step back but sometimes that dive is all it takes. Especially if it's something you want to do. You can always do it, I believe in you!

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Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

@Bee what an awesome thread!! 

@lokifish Thank you for tagging me Smiley Happy 

@N1ghtW1ng I find it really inspiring how you've thrown yourself into your special interest, I think it's really awesome that you're so passionate about this Smiley Happy 

 

What is one thing you have learnt through your journey of recovery? 

That the body always wants to save you. Whatever pain and trauma and danger you put your body through, it always fights so very very hard to survive and to function as well as it possibly can and I'm so grateful for that. 

 

How do you keep mentally well? 

By finding reasons to stay alive, like my siblings, and by journaling and listening to music that makes me feel like the world is okay for a few minutes. 

 

Do you have a favourite quote or piece of advice that has been given to you? 

I have three!! One is the quote (idk where it's from, I saw it on a picture at my counsellor's office) that goes "Life is tough, but darling, so are you." 

Another is a quote from Doctor Who which is: "900 years of time and space, and I never met anyone who wasn't important." 

And finally, a friend once told me, "You're going to be happy one day, because you deserve to be," and that's really stuck with me. 

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Yes @Bee, Inside Out is the best!

 

What is one thing you have learnt through your journey of recovery?

Hmmm...how to pick just one thing? There are so many! Lately, the one that's been resonating with me most is how important it is to take care of myself and pay attention to the signs that I might need to slow down. That slowing down might take different forms, but the important thing is that I let myself do it, without judging myself, whether I take a day off work or say no to a social invitation or go to bed extra early. 

 

How do you keep mentally well?

I make sure I get enough sleep everyday/night, drink lots of water and, most importantly, I am honest with the people around me about how I'm feeling and I'm lucky that when I confide in them, they support me unconditionally. I have the most amazing group of friends, and family, and they are essential to my well-being.

 

Do you have a favourite quote or piece of advice that has been given to you?

Like @lokifish, I'm a big fan of 'this, too, shall pass' but my favourite quote will probably always be one that's a fair bit longer: "My freedom is an agreement with myself. It's an acceptance and love for who I am that is not dependent on performance or the words or will of other people."

 

 

// Spiral outward, keep going. //

Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

Nice responses everyone!
@lokifish (thanks for tagging people!) that is soo true about it never ending! Which is sort of what I was getting at with the point of managing the symptoms. Because the symptoms (of some) mental health conditions are part of everyday life emotions. And despite having a mental health condition we can learn to manage it and we can live a happy and healthy life! Which is where the lesson I learnt from Inside Out fits in nicely. And I have been looking for a clip that shows the scene in which it occurs Joy realises sadness is important. From this scene, it becomes apparent that w
e need BOTH Joy & Sadness (and all the other emotions) in our lives to balance everything out. Smiley Happy
 
@N1ghtW1ng you're welcome Smiley Happy
I'm sure you'll learn lots of different things along your journey/s
Just chilling out! I love that!


@DruidChildthat is so true -the human body is exceptionally good at trying to save itself! That's all part of the great Fight, Flight & Freeze reactions.
I also love all of those quotes! <3
 
@letitgothat is awesome. Self-Care is so important! And knowing your own warning signs of needing a break is really helpful too!
Your favourite quote is truly inspiring!
 

My favourite way to keep mentally healthy is through self-care. This is something I have become very passionate about and is something I make time for everyday!

My favourite quote comes from a teacher I had in high school, who also filled in as a school counsellor for a little while. "You are stronger than you believe/give yourself credit for"
At the time I couldn't see it. But now as I have more wisdom, more knowledge I can see it. And I look back at that time and she made such a positive impact upon me ❤
Which is very similar to a quote from Winnie the Pooh!

 


Monday's Getting Real: Coping with Holiday Blues
Don't forget to practice self-care regularly!

Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

Recently I've noticed some positive steps forward within my recovery journey and I really wanted to share them here for everyone and I wanted to ask the community if anyone else had a positive experience or step in their recovery they are/ were proud of and are comfortable sharing Smiley Happy

 

So as you may have seen in "What are you proud of" I was recently talking about my positive appointment with my psychiatrist and how I was able to communicate more freely and easily with them. This was really the first time I was able to communicate clearly and articulate how I was feeling etc.

I also spoke about how I've been able to utilize the tools I've learnt in therapy in everyday life. So being able to think and act in a rational wise mind state, where I'm balancing both my emotions and logic at the same time.

Today I saw my psychologist and I hadn't had time to write an email with what I wanted to talk about in session. So I was kind of going in without a back up written down. But despite that I again was able to communicate with her effectively and remain engaged the entire session! This is a huge positive for me as when I first started seeking help I would have panic attacks and be unable to look or communicate with the health professional! So I feel it is an applicable moment to share in my recovery journey to well being Smiley Happy

 

 


Monday's Getting Real: Coping with Holiday Blues
Don't forget to practice self-care regularly!

Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

Recently things have felt harder for me with my mental health. Sleeping in longer, staying up later. Struggling to find the motivation to do the things that are good for me.

 

So what do we do when we really just want to stay in bed all day and leave our responsibilities behind? Do we do it once and then consequently do it the following day and eventually fall into a bad habit again? Or do we try and power through even though our heart isn't in it?

 

I've found myself in a bit of a bad habit and my mood is reflecting this - I'm feeling low, I have no desire to do anything productive - I have a basket of clean clothes overflowing because I work up the energy and motivation to wash my clothes but I never quite manage to get them folded and put away - it feels too hard mainly because I need to go through my wardrobe and clean out what I don't wear anymore! So there's a bit of a layer effect going on, putting away the clothes in physically a challenge because I have so many, but cleaning them out feels daunting because it's such a big task and "what if I want to wear it again?" So consequently I end up feeling annoyed and sad about this basket of washing being there taunting me but I don't have the desire or motivation to deal with it.

 

So what do we do in these situations? Where the task feels too daunting and we're really struggling with our mental health? What can we say to ourselves or do for ourselves to help us feel better and get that washing folded?

 

 


Monday's Getting Real: Coping with Holiday Blues
Don't forget to practice self-care regularly!

Re: Recovery; our journey to well being

@Bee My wardrobe has sections so I'll focus on one at a time and do it over a couple of days. I find it less overwhelming that way. As for whether you'll wear a piece of clothing again, think about where you last wore it. Will it suit any other places you are likely to go in the next 6 months or will need for a job? If not, it can go. Folding washing can be exhausting. I find towels the most difficult. Try for 10 minutes and stop. Switching to another activity gives your brain a rest and after 10 minutes, you can fold another item or two until it's all folded. Same process can work for putting it away and anything else needing to be done. It helps with fatigue too because it keeps you moving and blood flowing.