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I also get really angry when they get angry for me not coming and I try to explain to them. I just feel tired and unmotivated. 

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Curling up at home reading a book or cooking while listening to music sounds like my happy place too @Phoon! I'm definitely an introvert, even though I have a lot of friends. The way I like to think of it is that an introvert gets drained by social interactions, while an extrovert is fueled by them. Some people have this perception that introverts are anti-social but that's not true - at least in my case. I just need a lot of alone time to recharge, and I prefer small, short gatherings with close friends rather than big loose parties. Does any of that ring true for you?

 

I think it would be helpful to talk to someone about these thoughts of self harm though. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your friends, is there someone else you feel good about talking to - an uncle/aunty, your school counsellor, a doctor, someone at Kids Helpline?

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Yeah that sounds alot like me, but usually I don't give myself enough time to recharge and I just keep going head on into these events until I'm worn out and I get angry and snap really easy. 

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Do you think that is something you can try @Phoon? To give yourself some recharge time before heading out to all these events?

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@Phoon I can definitely relate to wanting to curl up by yourself at night when its raining - that is my favourite thing to do to be honest. I think we live in a world where extroverted activities like partying and socialising are valued way above solitude and relaxation. But we need to find a balance between the two and this balance is different for everyone. Try not to feel guilty for wanting to spend time alone - this time is really important.

 

It sounds like you are quite burnt out and going through a really tough time. When was the last time you did something fun/exciting just for you? Self care is really important! Eg plan a trip away, go see a movie you've wanted to see for ages, go to the library and read all day, go to the beach - whatever it is that you like to do Smiley Very Happy

 

If you ever feel like hurting yourself please don't hesitate to call Lifeline or Kids Help Line or talk it out with someone here on RO

 

 

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Hi @Phoon

I'm sorry you felt that way! How are you feeling now? I used to last-minute cancel on social events all the time when I was in high school. I have to admit that it was because I was scared at the time but once I started to go to the events I actually ended up having a lot of fun! It takes time but each time it got easier and easier.