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Borderline Personality Disorder/Dialectical Behavioural Therapy

Hey guys!

 

We thought it'd be a good idea to start a conversation around personality disorders, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in particular. Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) is a renowned treatment for BPD created by a woman named Marsha Linehan, who actually has BPD herself. You can read a bit more about her here if you're interested.

 

I thought I'd start off our discussion with a few questions:

 

What are your experiences with a personality disorder (PD), whether your own or someone you know?

 

What therapies/skills have helped you with it?

// Spiral outward, keep going. //
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@letitgo THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!

 

I'm one of those annoying people who has a BPD diagnosis. I say annoying because my emotions change quite rapidly. One minute I'll be fine, the next I've tried to hurt myself. I also have problems getting along with people and having difficulty with trust. Social situations can be an absolute nightmare because I often offend people without meaning to.

 

One strategy I have for intense emotions is the TIP skill, but I'm not very good at doing it currently.

I don't have any current face to face therapy other than my case manager. There is talk of getting me involved in a group next year.

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I have BPD and im one of those silent sufferers and dont let other people know how im feeling sort of person (id have to say something for someone to know somethings going on); my worst experience of a few people with borderline is they have the emotions but they are very 'attention seeking' and made sure they did and said bad things in front of workers to get themselves in trouble and that but it was only worse for me cause it was rather out there and im complete opposite for that and they nearly got me in trouble. I find also professionals who know my diagnosis is BPD then stereotype me and take/treat me poorly and not seriously. (thats bout all I can think of right now as Im taking my daughter to bed)
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I think this is a truly amazing thread and i am very very happy this exists!

 

  • What are your experiences with a personality disorder (PD), whether your own or someone you know?

Well, i was a carer, partner, best friend and favourite person to a person living with BPD for many years, so i can say that i have experienced what it's like second hand.... at least for one person

 

I also was a mental health advocate for many years and worked a lot with people living with BPD to help them tell services what they needed and to make sure the services gave them what they asked for too!

 

 

What therapies/skills have helped you with it?

DBT is amazing.

I think that my perspective is one of a carer and a mental health professional.

In my professional life this is probably something that i use a lot.

 

Particularly this bit:

  • Be respectful.
    Show empathy and a caring attitude.
    Be consistent and reliable.
    Listen and pay attention to the person when they describe their current experience and take it seriously.
    Validate the person’s current emotional state and allow the person to express strong emotions.
    Maintain a non-judgemental attitude.
    Stay calm.
    Communicate clearly.
    Express hope about the person’s capacity for change and give encouragement, but don’t give false
    assurances about the ease and speed of recovery.

I am by no means perfect at any of it (nobody is) but i do try pretty hard!

 

I also really like this comic because i think it sums up a lot of what i have learned in my personal life with a best friend living with Borderline - even though its Waaaaaaaay to simple.

 

 

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@Ben-RO that comic makes me want to cry

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whys it wanna make you cry @loves netball? I think it was really nice and Id hope I had a friend like this but Im not sure my friends would know about this sort of thing
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@CasKat91 I also wish I had a friend like this. I've lost lots of people I used to go to for support, this was mostly last year before I had professional support and a diagnosis. But even when I did tell people my diagnosis, they still decided I was too much. These people would suddenly just cut all contact, and it still upsets me because it's my fault for being like this. 

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Thank you @CasKat91 and @loves netball for sharing your experiences in this area!

 

I have often heard that a diagnosis of BPD can bring with it a negative stereotype, and in fact DBT was created in part because some mental health professionals are daunted by the complexities of BPD. I hope you've been able to find a professional who doesn't subscribe to that sterotype. Is there anything you do, or you think you could do, to alleviate that? 

// Spiral outward, keep going. //
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@loves netball please let me reassure you that it is most certainly not your fault. I'm sorry to hear that some people have reacted badly to your diagnosis, but I promise you it (and those people) do not define or decrease your worth in any way.

// Spiral outward, keep going. //
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How do I find somewhere for DBT?

 

My last psychologist (who is on leave and possibly the most helpful I've seen so far), thought I was too ongoing for private psychology. I've interpreted that as being too needy for people.

 

@letitgo how is it not my fault when I did things for people to not want contact with me anymore? I know I can look at it as the mental illness taking over, but I still did those things and I have to accept responsibility for my actions