@Tiny_leaf Thank you for sharing how exhausted you are feeling at the moment, it is very relatable, raw and honest. I believe that no one is "bad" at self-care, maybe you just haven't found something that really feels right for you. From experience, trial and error with different techniques/activities that I've been given have helped me find and develop a little toolbox of self-care. For exhaustion I find that having a hot bath with Epsom salts or any other nice smelly salts is VERY relaxing, lighting a candle and watching Netflix or reading a book is so so relaxing.
It really resonated with me when you said about going from one project to another and seeing that as self care. I am a bit the same when I am feeling like I need to some self care it just means I take on something else like volunteering or helping my mates. So I get what you mean about feeling exhausted. There have been lots of good suggestions already, for me because I always find ways to be busy, I started doing something simple for self care.....which is listening to nature noises or camp fire noises for 10 or 15 minutes before I go to sleep at night. It has helped me not let things get to on top of me. I decided to combine self care and sleep hygiene into one
@Tiny_leaf There's no need to apologise It does sound difficult for you. It's hard to have patience with ourselves when it's taking time to find what works for us. What we need and what helps us does change and evolve as we do. I'm sure you'll find new strategies that help.
There is no need to apologize @Tiny_leaf sometimes things help us in certain periods in our lives and then time passes and the same activity or self care loses the same nurturing abilities. Sounds like this is a really difficult time for you, reaching out on this thread is a great achievement in itself!