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Re: Coming Out

I think it is a beautiful letter, so beautiful. I think it is wonderful you are excited too Smiley Happy I am so happy to see this. Maybe you could pop in the number for Q Life (1800 184 527) for your parents, Q Life can help your parents learn a little and be a third party support only if they need it of course Heart They can support you too. Well done.   @Bookworm2004

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Hi @Bookworm2004
I think a letter is a great idea.
I've used letters before and it's a really good way to write exactly how you feel because sometimes when I try to convey things in person I get emotional and it doesn't come out the way I intended.
Please keep us updated Heart

Re: Coming Out

Hey @Bookworm2004 I wanted to pop into this thread and say how amazing it is that you've written this letter for your mum.
The only thing I might consider adding is websites or resources for them to check out as they might find it helpful to have a place to look at for information, but this is always something you can talk about with them.

I hope it goes well Smiley Happy

Re: Coming Out

Hi. so I started a conversation with my dad about gender and transgender but he seemed to be quite close minded so I am worried that if I come out that he won't accept me for who I am. Do you people have any tips on coming out to possibly unsupportive parents?

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Hey @Bookworm2004 good to hear from you again, well done on taking another step forward in the process of authentically being your amazing self Heart I guess the main thing is at the end of the day, eventually they are going to have to acknowledge this, and accept it. However it is completely up to you when you want to have that conversation.  If it helps feel free to write to us what you would like to say to them, to get it out of your head first Smiley Happy

 

Also here at ReachOut, do you have a preferred pronoun you would like us to use? he/she/they, just let us know Smiley Happy 

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Hi. Yes I do have prefered pronouns which are he/him.

Re: Coming Out

Hey @Bookworm2004, just touching base as another lgbt/sort of trans (?) person and I wanted to say that I really admire you for taking the steps to come out to your family! It's a really tough process and I hope that there are other people in your life (e.g. friends) who are also supportive of you.

 

In the mean time I would really suggest checking out any local organisations/services that offer LGBT (esp. trans and gender diverse specific) support and events. I'm not sure which state you're in but in my state there are a lot of events aimed at LGBT young people and it can be really fun and encouraging to spend time with others that you know share a common experience.

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Hey @Bookworm2004 I'm sorry that the gender conversation didn't go well with your dad. Do you know if your other parent or anyone else has other views?

Having someone you can turn to, such as a friend or other relative who supports you, can be helpful when your parents are unsupportive. I don't have any other tips, but QLife (they have a webchat and phone) specialise in lgbt and gender diversity and might be able to offer more suggestions than we can. What do you think?

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Hi @Bookworm2004,
Sorry to hear the gender conversation didn't go as well as we'd hoped but I am really glad that you were brave enough to start the conversation.
I agree with @Bree-RO, eventually your parents are going to have to acknowledge this because being your authentic self is important to your happiness. For some people it can take some time to process the information but it's always helpful to provide links or resources that can help to explain.
Please keep us updated Heart