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I am gay and want a partner but do not want to come out.

Well hi guys, I am gay and I genuinely am only attracted towards boys, But these days after I realised I am gay, I have been feeling lonely and I really want a partner! Also, these days we are learning about sexualities in my school, which makes me feel very low and disheartened!! Especially because it’s like the ‘valentines’ season, There are lots of people starting to date each other, which make me feels really ba as I cannot come out, but I want a date!! I have been feeling really low these days, and I have never felt it before in my life, hope to hear from someone soon!! Hopefully someone can help!

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Re: I am gay and want a partner but do not want to come out.

Hi @Gurasis05 

 

Thanks for joining ReachOut and sharing what's going on for you. It was really brave of you to post on here. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot at the moment, including understanding your sexuality, wanting a partner like others at school, but also not feeling ready to come out. It must suck to feel ready to date but having something holding you back (i.e., the need to come out). 

 

If you don't mind me asking - what is stopping you from coming out?

 

Also, I noticed that you posted this on somebody else's thread and so I have moved your post so that it's now its own thread, which should increase the amount of support you receive Smiley Happy. I hope you don't mind. Smiley Very Happy

 

 

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Re: I am gay and want a partner but do not want to come out.

Hi @Gurasis05 I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so lonely. I recently realised that I’m a lesbian, and I can relate a lot to wanting love but being afraid to be open about who I am. 

 

What is the main reason you feel that you can’t come out at the moment? Do you have any supportive friends who you would consider talking to? 

 

Some places like local headspace centres or community centres have youth LGBT groups where you can go and socialise and meet other young gay people. Would something like that be an option for you?

 

I also find that reading books or watching movies or YouTube videos about other gay people helps me to feel less alone. Heart

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Re: I am gay and want a partner but do not want to come out.

Hi I'm new here.

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Re: I am gay and want a partner but do not want to come out.

Hi @chrisbarett, welcome aboard! I have noticed that you have commented on this thread. Is this topic relevant for you? Did you want to share more about what is happening for you?

Just so you know, I have sent you through an email Heart