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Just don’t fit

I feel like I just don’t fit any where anymore all the spaces that I felt I belonged to I feel I’ve outgrew now not necessarily a bad thing but I don’t know where I fit now. I don’t really have a space I can go to with people I relate to anymore 

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Hey @Saltwaterdreamtime I'm really feeling for you right now, I can completely relate to these feelings. It's so hard when you've outgrown or drifted from a certain period of your life, it is such a disorientating and lonely feeling. When I've been through this I try to think that new phases, communities, friends etc will come into my life eventually and try to sit tight. It's not easy though and can really hurt, so I get that in this moment it would feel completely shit. Do you think there are any groups/hobbies etc you could plan to get involved in? 

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Not really @Bre-RO I joined a FB group a few weeks ago but I haven’t been to any of their catch ups yet. 
This feeling has been lingering for a long time but every day it just becomes more apparent. And sometimes I feel like if you just disabled my account on here I would be forced to leave and that’s not a bad thing. I’m not being negative to myself just being honest 

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Thank you for being honest @Saltwaterdreamtime I think that's a really admirable trait. I can see why you'd feel that way. I think a lot of people here would relate to that as well, especially with how isolating this year has been, it's very understandable that the feeling has become more intense for you. 

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Because this isn’t the best place for me I feel like I don’t fit here anymore @Bre-RO But I won’t leave unless somebody forces me to, because I have nowhere else. I will just be forced to cope rather than flogging a dead horse. 

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Aw man feeling like that must suck @Saltwaterdreamtime Smiley Sad If I am honest, I think it can be really tough to find a place where you feel like you truly belong.. especially as things in life change. I am wondering if there is a particular reason why you feel like you don't belong in your usual spaces anymore? Have you changed or have the places changed?

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I’ve changed @Taylor-RO@and that’s ok... but I don’t fit in those old spaces anymore 

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I think it's really great that you are still looking at the positives in the situation @Saltwaterdreamtime. You mentioned not fitting into those spaces anymore, is there anything that has made you think that is the case?

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It’s not a bad thing though like it’s going to happen... @Sophia-RO But the bad part is I don’t have that anymore. I feel like I’m not making any sense though. 
I guess the things that are important to me changed, I just feel like I’ve, i don’t know, grown up a bit? That’s not the right word but I dont what else to put 

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And also I feel I have been pretty good at explaining how I’m feeling but this one has got me stumped