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Re: Secretly bi with homophobic parents

Hey @Birdie_4002, and welcome to ReachOut. Smiley Happy


I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling with your sexuality and lack of understanding from your family. This is something that many users on here will be able to relate to. I’m glad that your parents are supportive at least. There is an article about coming out on the main ReachOut website that you might find helpful which I’ll link to here.


As for what to do, I think that you need to do what feels best for you in the current circumstances. Just remember that whatever decision you make will be the right one. ❤️


I’ll just tag a couple of other users who might be able to help as well. Smiley Happy

@N1ghtW1ng @scared01 @DruidChild @DirtWitch @redhead


Re: Secretly bi with homophobic parents

hey @tessa41, another bi person checking in here! 


The decision to come out is a very personal one that is unique to every person's feelings and circumstances. I think there is a lot of pressure in Western media/society to see coming out as something necessary to claim your identity as an LGBT person but I know many LGBT people who also lead happy, fulfilling lives that do not plan on coming out to their family. In my case I am out to my friends but not to my family and I don't really have any plans to come out to them. 


It seems like you are in a situation where if you come out it would make your home life quite difficult because of your parents' attitudes. It sucks that we live in a world like this but in this case you have to think of your well-being and safety first. I would really encourage attending some anonymous support groups or LGBT events as a safe space to freely talk about and explore your sexuality first, and it's also a really great way to meet people who have been through similar things! Take some time to feel comfortable in your skin first, and then maybe revisit the idea of coming out later if you feel like that is something that is important to you.

Re: Secretly bi with homophobic parents

I cant really help you about the part with having homophobic parents and coming out to them as i have yhe same problem and i havent came out and i dont think i ever will, but i can always help you about figuring out your sexuality and help with any questions you have about being bi because im bi.