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Re: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

@YellowButtercup  I know it's up to your dad to change his behaviour, but well done for making him aware of how it's affecting you and how you feel about it. That was a really courageous step. Heart I'm glad that you and your mum are supporting each other and that you have a wonderful support network. Smiley Happy
It must be so hard dealing with your dad's use of alcohol and your brother's issues. I agree with you having to look after yourself before you get involved in trying to get your family members help, especially if they are reluctant to change their behaviour or accept any outside assistance. I personally find that helpful when caring for my own family members.
We have another article here about what to do if someone doesn't want help. It is written in the context of a friendship but could apply to a family relationship too.

I really hope that things improve and that your father and brother can get the help they need. Heart

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Re: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

Hey @YellowButtercup 

 

I just wanted to say hi and introduce myself to you. Thank you for sharing what has been happening for you and your family here with us Heart 

 

There has been some really lovely comments here and I just wanted to echo what others have said already. It was very brave of you to share your thoughts and feelings about this situation with your Dad. 

 

I hope the articles that @WheresMySquishy shared are helpful as well Heart 

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

My dad was also an alcoholic. It is very hard to express what a painful thing it is

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

@TriciaRay  Welcome to the forums!
I'm sad to hear that your dad was also an alcoholic. Smiley Sad It can be so tough to watch a parent go through an addiction.
Did he end up receiving treatment?

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

Thank you. This is really a real pain to see the closest person degradation and live always in fear for him and yourself. He continues to get treatment and I hope it will help him.

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

Hi @TriciaRay, I know what you mean - it's really hard! I noticed you're from overseas, which we've sent you an email about. Unfortunately we have to deactivate your account soon, but do you think you might be able to get some support for this in your country? Going through something like this isn't easy and you deserve the right support. In the email we sent you, we provided a list of countries and some of their services. I encourage you to look through this list and see if any of the services in your country are suitable to you. Please take care Heart

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

Unfortunately, I didn't get the list of countries. And frankly speaking, the topic is very actual for me. So, I hope to find any advice and help anyway. Please do not reactivate my account. Thank you

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

My brother was an alcoholic for many years. Indeed, it is really very scary and this is a disaster for the whole family. He sold everything that was in our house. He himself had always provoked fights when he got drunk. I will never forget this. We speak to him many times it worked just for some days. The further the worse and at the end, our conversations and requests generally ceased to act for him. We asked help from a specialist how we can help an addict, alcoholic and he said that we can do nothing by ourselves just only himself can change his life when he will decide to stop drinking.

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Re: TW: My dad's an alcoholic and I don't know what to do

Hi @DanOstin, thanks for sharing your experience. It sounds like it was a really difficult time for your family. Understandably so, addiction is not an easy thing for anyone to go through. It seems like you and your family did all you could to get through it and it is great that you reached out to a specialist. Just so you know, I have sent you through an email Smiley Happy