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Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Hey @Jardin , sorry for the late response, I haven't been on the forums too much in the last couple of days! Wow, I'm proud of you for getting your Ps, I remember when I got mine it took so many hours of driving so congrats! That's great that you went to the opera with your mum, it's good to spend family time outside of the house so you both can have a breather from what's going on. 

 

It's not silly that you're worried that you might develop an eating disorder too. I think it's pretty normal to have those fears given how much it is affecting your sister and your family. Is there someone in your life like a counsellor or a trusted friend you could speak to about these fears?

 

It's so hard right? My sister talks a lot about her weight and repeats these self-denigrating statements about her body and it makes me feel really sad and worried for her sometimes. But things are a bit better with her lately. She's finished uni and has started a new relationship and she says she's doing a lot better mentally. Sometimes it's hard to trust that she really is getting better...but I know that if I don't trust her and treat her like I normally would (with love and support, but not treating her like she is a fragile object) that would be worse. 

 

I think you really are being a great sister. It sounds like you're being really patient with her and respecting her when she needs space. I have so much hope that your sister will make a brilliant recovery. I'm thinking about you and your family and sending a virtual hug your way!

 

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“Your now is not your forever."
― John Green, Turtles All the Way Down

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Also, totally second the idea of ROs Breathing App. If that doesn't work for you, sometimes I try and count for eight, rest without breathing out for 4 and then breathe out for eight. I also try and breathe in with my rose and out through my mouth, letting my belly expand as I breathe out. There are some amazing breathing apps out there, or perhaps maybe trying a yoga tutorial could be a good idea if you want to move your body in a gentle way? I love Yoga With Adrienne's youtube channel.

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“Your now is not your forever."
― John Green, Turtles All the Way Down

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Thank you @Maddy-RO@WheresMySquishy  and @MisoBear for all your wonderful comments and help Heart 

 

I definitely think practice deep breathing should help me. I guess when I am panicking I often forget to breath properly. 

 

Also on a side note -- I love Yoga With Adrienne's youtube channel!!Smiley Very Happy I've done a few of her back ones when I gotten a sore back.

 

I think you guys were right when you said I am grieving my sister. I just miss our old friendship so badly. I part of me doesn't know if we can ever have that again.

I agree that it's important to acknowledge that the eating disorder is controlling her for now. She's not doing these things willingly.

 

About the councillor... I would really love to talk to someone but I just don't want to cost my parents any extra money. They are already paying a lot for my sister to go see all her specialists so I think I would feel bad to ask them to spend more.

 

Once again guys, thanks you so much for all your tips and support Heart You guys are the best!

 

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Hi Jardin! It sounds as though you've received quite a few helpful comments already, I suppose I'd just like to send my support to you, especially in regards to the uncertainty your going through about what's going to happen. I'd like to second the suggestion to reach out to someone you trust in your life if you feel things are getting too much - otherwise you could talk to lifeline if you'd like to find out what kind of supports are out there - as there are quite a few around that provide counselling sessions for free Smiley Happy

sending my best wishes!

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Hi @Jardin 

 

I am so glad to see all the support you have received here. I know things are still really tough but you are showing such strength every day. Congratulations on getting your P's!!! I also enjoy Yoga With Adrienne's Youtube channel, very good for helping with my soccer injuries. 

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Thank you so much @reach804 and @Claire-RO Heart. You are both so kind-hearted and supportive and I really want to thank you guys. I will look up some free counselling services and do some more Yoga Smiley Happy.

I am really glad there are forums like ReachOut. They make a huge difference when you have things going on in your life that you find hard to talk about.

 

Thank you to every one who has replied on this thread Heart You are all amazing.

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

We're always here for you @Jardin, please keep coming back to the forums if you need support! Sounds like you're putting some good strategies into place to help bolster your own mental health Smiley Happy 

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“Your now is not your forever."
― John Green, Turtles All the Way Down
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Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

That's nice to hear!
Feel free to update us here on how you've been going as well Smiley Happy
best wishes Smiley Happy

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

I think those are some great strategies @Jardin! I hope you get some benefits out of them. I'm glad you found the forums helpful.

Feel free to let us know if you need some more support. Heart I'll be thinking of you and your family and praying that your sister gets better.

Re: TW (eating disorder): Supporting a sibling with an eating disorder

Hey @Jardin, I just wanted to check in and see how you're going at the moment? 

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“Your now is not your forever."
― John Green, Turtles All the Way Down