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Things I could do to help my dad?

Hey,

My dad has always suffered from severe asthma. Recently he's been kind of acting strange, has been really enthusiastic, not that he isn't like that usually but it feels like he's forcing it and then dropping small comments when he's having a coughing fit that he's 'dying real slowly'. I'm very aware of how sick he is at the moment, more than ever before. New medication coming in and new tests but despite all that, he's really trying to stay 'upbeat'? if that makes sense. The issue here is that at some point he becomes really silent and really sad to the point he just "can't sleep". I just want to know if anyone would have any ideas as to what I could do to spend more time with him? I watched a couple of movies with him but I feel like it's not enough. I guess I'm just kind of scared I might regret not spending enough time with him.

 

Open to any suggestions, thanks Smiley Happy

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Hey @MoonSwirls

 

That really really sucks that things are a bit tough for your dad healthwise right now. It must be really hard on not just him, but you and the rest of your family right now Heart do you have any shared hobbies, or things he likes to do? It could be something like learning a skill he's passionate in, or maybe you guys could go for a walk together and spend some time just chatting and being in each other's company Smiley Happy

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I think it's lovely that you're putting effort into bonding with your dad @MoonSwirls , I can really get a sense that it's a loving bond. However you spend your time with him, I think you'll both get a lot out of it if you're mindful to appreciate that time Heart

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Hiya @MoonSwirls 

 

I'm sorry to hear of your Dad's situation and for any worry or distress it may have caused you- especially if you've noticed negative changes in his behaviours. It's sweet to hear you want to bond with him- if you want more suggestions- I think positive activities that have you both working towards a common goal that you can bot be proud of might be good. Think baking a cake and then sharing it together, planting a herb garden you can benefit from straight away or even just weeding a garden. Maybe even walking a dog or pet (if he's up to that!)

 

Keep us posted Smiley Happy

 

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Thanks so much @squiggly  ❤️

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Thanks so much for your reply @Andrea-RO! 🥰

We don’t share a lot of hobbies but our personality, characteristic-wise, we’re quite similar. He’s changed quite a bit since my post. He’s a lot more irritated and doesn’t bother trying to be happy anymore. I’m a little scared to approach if I’m honest. Nonetheless, I hope it’s temporary and when he’s feeling a little better, I’ll try out your suggestion ☺️

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I appreciate your response very much! Thank you @Tay100

I think this is a good idea, I’ll see if he’ll be up to it. He was admitted to the hospital today due to an asthma attack, when he comes home I’ll have this in mind. Again, thank you so much. ☺️

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hey @MoonSwirls! I can understand why you might be feeling a bit nervous or scared about how to go about things because it sounds like a tricky situation and I'm sure your whole family is worried about your dad. But like everyone else said, I think it's really great that you want to support him and even though we can't solve everything, what's important is that we've tried our best, because that's all we can ever really do.

 

Both Tay100 and Andrea have given some really helpful suggestions, and I hope you can remember that you're not to blame for anything that's happening, and that you can take some time to relax and have fun for yourself, as well. It's not only important to check in with our loved ones to spend time with them, but to check in and take care of ourselves, too Heart

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@MoonSwirls  anytime, we are here! Hope the hospital visit goes well too!

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Hey @MoonSwirls 

 

I'm a bit late to this post but I think it is really thoughtful that you are taking the time to find some activities to do with your dad. It can be hard when a loved one is sick and becomes withdrawn (which I saw you mention in a more recent post.) Even though he may not show it, I'm sure he appreciates the little things you do to try to make his day better, make him feel better, and keep his mind off things. I hope you've found little ways to look after yourself and your mental health too!