Re: leaving a toxic place

Pearl78 · ‎08-03-2019

Hi i am new here and im wanting to get help leaving a toxic place

Jay-RO · ‎08-03-2019

Hey there @Pearl78 and welcome to ReachOut!

Just letting you know that I've moved your post to a new thread so that more people will see it and be able to offer advice

I'm sorry to hear you're in this situation, wanting to leave a toxic place can be a difficult decision to make. Are you safe right now? It can be difficult to leave, but sometimes having other people to support you can be a great help. Is there anyone around you who you can talk to about what's going on?

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scared01 · ‎08-03-2019

hi @Pearl78
would you be able to tell us a little bit more about your situation so we could better help you?

**NEVER be afraid to ask for help because you're WORTH it!**

xXLexi_Lou122Xx · ‎08-03-2019

Hi @Pearl78. I agree with @scared01.
What is it that's hard to leave?
I had a toxic relationship, and I'm slowly working through that issue still. If it's a relationship with a friend, gf/bf, I may be able to help...

Pearl78 · ‎09-03-2019

I have been with my bf for 10 years we got together when i was 15

Everything was great until about 2 years ago and thats when it started first it was about my weight then about my spending then it turned into very nasty e.g i wouldnt want to look at the mother of my children and think shes a whale all cause i asked about children...

I was silly and bought a house with him

Im now over this toxic cycle of him being nice for like few months then it starts

I want to move far away as possible but dont have the money im trying to find loans but cause im low income i cant get any and he controls all the money...

Pearl78 · ‎09-03-2019

I replied in my original post about my situation

TOM-RO · ‎09-03-2019

Hey @Pearl78

Just letting you know that I have removed one of your posts - you seem to have posted the same post twice.

It sounds like you're in a bit of a tough situation. Some of the comments he has made sound really mean. I'm glad you are reaching out for advice on your situation.

You mentioned you did not have any money to move out. Is it possible to potentially ask a friend or family member for help?

Pearl78 · ‎09-03-2019

Hey Thanks i didnt know how to do it I have asked no one can i believe banks may help with Domestic Loans so i was gonna call them monday

dncinginthedirt · ‎10-03-2019

Hi @Pearl78

1800Respect could be a good starting place for info and support if you haven't looked them up before https://www.1800respect.org.au/

leaving a toxic place