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Hello @scared01, I am kind of new here, nice to meet you Smiley Happy. I think it makes perfect sense that you feel more lonely when you are not working. Our brain and our thoughts work much more differently when we are distracted because we don't have any time to focus on negative things. That's why doing activities that can distract you (even if they are a bit boring) can be really helpful for stopping negative thoughts and passing the time quickly! I am sorry to hear that you are not too close with your family, that must get hard at times. I am glad that you reach out here for support, we are always happy to chat with you ! Is there something that you enjoy doing that helps to distract you? Are you playing any games right now or watching any tv series?
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well then welcome! and its nice to meet you too @Sophia-RO
I hope to see you around more often too.

I honestly don't have anything to do. ive been really unwell lately so it takes a lot of my energy up but everyday its like the same thing and without a caree to look after (even though I don't really enjoy it and I really do need this break im getting right now) it makes me realise how alone I am. I don't have the option of just picking up my phone and sending a msg to a friend to ask if they want to catch up over a coffee or something.
I have to try and finish a blanket ive been making off but I just don't want to. I don't want to do any artworks or anything. its like im so bored that I cant even be bothered doing anything.
I finished watching the movie I had on tonight so I think ill head to bed and try and sleep or something to try and pass the time.
**NEVER be afraid to ask for help because you're WORTH it!**
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Thanks for your kind words @scared01, I hope to see you around on the forums too! I am sorry to hear that you have been unwell lately, being unwell can really zap your energy! Making a blanket sounds really awesome, hopefully you wake up with a bit more energy tomorrow so that you are able to work a bit more on it. I think having a good rest sounds like a good plan. It should make you feel a bit better considering that you have been feeling unwell!
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@scared01 I'm glad you have the 2 days to get some space to yourself... whilst doing housework is great, maybe you could schedule in a fun activity, something that can have a bit of your attention across the whole day? Like a long haul cooking project or spa day? Or go the opposite way and do some work admin/housekeeping. Just a thought Smiley Happy

 

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thanks @Sophia-RO
im usually out of bed at 6am (or at leas awake but up by 7) but today I stayed in bed until 11am, had a cup of tea then decided to scrub my kitchen properly. I emptied all the cupboards etc and scrubbed them all out and put stuff back neatly, done the same with my pantry and my fridge as well. I got most of the washing done. I just haven't got the last load off the clothes line or folded anything. that's a good start for now at least.

oh and I made cupcakes and shared some with mum and kids and also someone who is having a hard time. I made heap of them so I could share them all around. @Tay100

next week is full of tests and appts again so im trying to get the house cleaned up before Tuesday esp since that's when my caree is expected home now instead of tomorrow arvo.


**NEVER be afraid to ask for help because you're WORTH it!**
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A sleep in sounds like a wonderful way to rest when you have been feeling worn out @scared01! The cleaning sounds like a really good start - cleaning always makes me feel a bit refreshed. That was really sweet of you to make cupcakes for everyone, what a nice gesture which probably made their day!

It sounds like you have a really busy week ahead, I hope your tests and appointments go well Heart
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thanks @Taylor-RO
im trying to pain manage atm otherwise I may end up in emergency tonight. im really trying to avoid that though till Tuesday if possible when I can speak with the specialist.
yeah I liked making cupcakes. I want to make a rainbow cake soon. It looks alike a challenge to make the layered cake sort so I want to give it ago.

thanks for the well wishes too Heart
how are you going? it feels like a while since we last spoke..
**NEVER be afraid to ask for help because you're WORTH it!**
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No worries at all @scared01! I think a lot of people underestimate how powerful acts of kindness can be. A layered cake would be heaps of fun. I don't bake but recently my friend made a layered cake and it looked amazing Smiley Happy If you do end up making it, you should post a picture of the result if you feel comfortable.

What does pain management usually look like for you? I feel for you though, you must be in so much pain.

It has been a while! I am glad you are back on again but please take breaks if you need to, we understand. I am keeping well.. thank you for asking. I am still studying and working and that is about it. Not much new here haha!

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yeah I haven't made a layered cake yet and have been wanting to for a while. i will post a pic here when i can get it done. i know itll be a whole arvo/morning thing so itll have to be a day when im not babysitting, have heaps of horses, or appointments/tests to go through.

atm my pain management is a little strange, im weary about what i say as i know others have EDs here but for me a lot of my pain (physical pain which is why they are running so many tests) comes from eating and drinking so right now a strategy is to stay hydrated by taking small sips of drink as often as i can (i cant drink a lot otherwise i be sick) and i cant usually eat anything till later in the day so i still try to eat a healthy dinner.
i take pain relief where i need, limited exercise or heavy lifting, physical activity, and more resting. i feel sooooo lazy cause this is definently not how i would normally be.

im glad your going ok esp during these tough times atm. what are you studying can i ask?
**NEVER be afraid to ask for help because you're WORTH it!**
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I am excited to see the cake you're going to make @scared01! I made a birthday cake for my friend the other day and it may have been a little lopsided, so luckily it tasted good!

 

I'm really impressed with how well thought out and rigorous your pain management system has been recently. It looks like you've developed a variety of strategies to help with how you're feeling - both physically and emotionally. It's hard not to beat yourself up about feeling lazy, especially when you're used to doing a lot more/if your brain is super active at the moment, but you should be proud of how much agency you have taken over your current situation, and how resilient you have been this whole time Smiley Happy