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Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

@j95 you're never annoying! Love chatting with you on here. Hope you sleep well. See ya @stonepixie and @smiley_ great contributions, will definitely see you next time! <3

Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

I am liking that everyone is making sure they look after themselves by going to bed! How sensible! And right on time too! @safari93 is just about to post the summary for the night Smiley Happy 

Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

There have been a few times in the past when I was invited to a social event, and I just was NOT in the mood to go! I could think of a MILLION reasons as to WHY I should stay home!! Easy!! I'd feel all this resistane and I didn't care if I let people down, i felt so uncomfortable!

But then I'd really push myself to feel okay how i was dressed and that it was all in my head - and I'd go, and once I got talking to people I pretty much felt sooo much better instantaneously!

Then this having a good time, being myself, having fun made me feel more confident and determined to make a point to get out and be social, as it is defintely GOOD for all of us.

 

A bit of the opposite of what you're discussing, but I've learned to find my balance and I'm enjoying life heaps more this year .

Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

Time to wrap up and phone out for the night! Here's what we've learned this evening:

 

It seems like a lot of us juggle several commitments, like uni, work and volunteering. Also taking time out for self-care and coping with mental illness, which also takes up time and effort

 

It seems like we all want to do all the things in the least amount of time possible – which means fitting work, study, volunteering and other commitments around each other. Sometimes it’s necessary for us to collect experience or practical knowledge alongside our study, or we commit to things that we feel are important. Plus, we seem to forget that we NEED down time, and think we can keep going forever with minimal rest. Of course, this means we can sometimes take on more than we can handle

 

Judging our mood states seems to be a really common way to tell when things are getting a bit much – and how they affect our bodies as well. Not feeling like you’re enjoying what you’re doing anymore, or feeling like you’re too tired to do basic things like feed yourself. Restlessness, anxiety, feeling overwhelmed and exhausted: these are all signs of the impending (commitment) apocalypse.

 

Just like there were so many reasons to overcommit, so there are many ways to deal with overcommittment. Asking for help – even asking for someone to take some of your work hours – making a priority list, scheduling down time later on during the week or even the week after. Sometimes you need to find more time, which can mean cutting back or even ending a commitment.

 

Scheduling down-time is important when you have a lot of commitments to worry about, which is related to good time-management. Some things need more self-care than others: if you feel like you’re going to be in an emotionally taxing situation, maybe scheduling self-care before and/or after could help. Aids like diaries and apps can be super useful for keeping tabs on commitments. Also, knowing it’s okay to assert your needs and say ‘no’ when you know you can’t commit. Speaking of…It seems like we all have! Its not as difficult as we think it is, and the world won’t end because we can’t hang out with someone. Besides, you can always reschedule! Your friends will understand.

 

Knowing when to say yes and no can bring its own benefits – you enjoy your outings when you do say yes, and when you say no you have time for yourself or to finish off other commitments.

 

 

In short – dealing with commitments and social lives is a learning curve, but you eventually learn that your wellbeing and self-care should come first in these decisions, as with life in general.

 

Thanks so much for coming out all! And shoutout to @Stealth_ninja for your very first GR session - facilitated!!

 

Good night all

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Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

Woo what a chat! thanks @safari93 and @Stealth_ninja for your awesome session! I learned all of the things! And now it's time for bed! 

 

Goodnight! 

 

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Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

Good night all! Thanks moderators, facillitators and @Ben-RO for the Chat sesh.

Will look forward to read over the summary later .

 

Bye!

Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

Night @evanescence!!

Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

Definitely agree @evanescence Social events can be great sources of confidence and also relaxing time! It is about find a balance and it's awsome that you've found that! Anyway thanks for joining! Smiley Happy

 

Goodnight!

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Re: Advice for the Nice: Knowing when to say No to social commitments

Great Stuff @safari93 @Stealth_ninja and all those involved in the conversation! Definitely picked up a lot of cool little tips from each person personally. Looking forward to hosting a GR soon! 

 

Night!