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[CHAT] Families!

Families are a funny bunch.

 

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But funnily enough, they also come in many shapes and sizes. Your parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, mothers, fathers, step- and half-relatives, friends, pets, co-workers, partners, boyfriends, girlfriends, massive, small, party of one…the list really does go on forever!

 

The idea of family can mean different things to different people, so it’s not the same for everyone. Family does not necessarily mean just your blood ties (people that you’re related to) There’s not just one kind of family or one ‘ideal’ or a ‘conventional’ view on what that may be.  Besides, what’s conventional anyway? Smiley Tongue So it’s important to acknowledge and respect that families span, far and wide.

 

Whether this is having people you are close to who care about you, and have your back during tough times, it’s also about recognising that you’d reciprocate that too.  Families have many ways in showing love and compassion for each other in whimsical ways. From buying family blocks of chocolate together, going out and spending time with each other, to signing up for an IKEA Family card or joking around, the joys of chilling out with the fambam is invaluable. However, even if you may consider some people as ‘family’, it doesn’t mean that they should be feel entitled to favours or respect when they’re being a d-bag about everything.

 

It does come to a point where there’s a fine line to draw when helping family out and blood ties are not necessarily the strongest kind of relationship. Helping someone out with a big move, lending money, doing errands, and tasks that may be seen as small things do build up in the end. For those in the know, you may have heard the tutt-tutts and the headshakes when you point out the double-standards or you decide to say ‘no’ to carrying out familial tasks.

 

You might have heard: 

 

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Yes, truly and surely – it can be easy to shrug it off and initially feel reluctant to put your foot down. But this kind of behaviour can be problematic and it’s important for you and everyone to recognise that. It’s even more important to do some self-care in the process and set some boundaries too. So how do we avoid this, and moreso, how do we deal with it when it becomes worse?

 

Chat to someone like a counsellor, psychologist, or a social worker, a trusted person outside of the family sphere, or a friend for advice and see how to go about it. Family isn’t exempt from bad behaviour blues and avoiding responsibilities!

But despite this, it doesn’t mean that this can’t improve either! Being a part of a family offers support unlike any other group of people that you may have encountered. Even if it is eating family blocks of chocolate together Smiley Tongue

 

***Whether you have an awesome or not-so-awesome family,  looking for advice to help out a friend dealing with their fam, or reluctant to tell your rellies that they’ve gone too far - we want to hear from you! Join us to chat about helping out your friends on Monday 11 May at 8pm, AEST! We'll be talking about how families come in all shapes and sizes!****

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Hey everyone!! Welcome to tonight’s Getting Real Session!! Tonight we will be discussing family – what family means to you, how you love your family, and what to do when you’re not quite getting along with them. I’ll be co-facilitating along with @Myvo, so hope you guys get into it and enjoy it!

 

Just a reminder to look at the community guidelines if you haven’t already, and remember these when you are chatting tonight. If you ever feel like things are getting a bit too intense, please have a look at our emergency help resources

So let’s begin:   

                                                                                       

How would you describe your family? Is it made up of ‘blood relations’, like your immediate or extended family? Or is it a network of trusted friends?

 

I do have a biological family that I live with, but honestly I feel like I’m much closer to my network of friends. It helps that my friends are less judgemental than my biological family, and I’ve been through some tough times with them which brings you all a lot closer

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Hello everyone! Smiley Very Happy

 

How would you describe your family? Is it made up of ‘blood relations’, like your immediate or extended family? Or is it a network of trusted friends?

Gotta agree with you @safari93! My family is made up of my blood relations haha. It's mostly immediate family like my parents and siblings. But I do consider my friends as 'family' too, as they're provide support unlike any other group of people. 

 

 

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@Myvo I think thats another difference between my 'blood relations' and my friends - they support me in a lot of different ways which my biological family don't, although that's probably what you expect from good friends

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YES! I made it! I'm afraid I can't stay for very long, but I'll drop in a few dollars of my input! (because 5 cents is not enough)

How would you describe your family? Is it made up of ‘blood relations’, like your immediate or extended family? Or is it a network of trusted friends?
My family is my immediately family. My mum, dad, brother and sister. On my mum's side, I have three aunts and grandparents but I can only stand to be around my granddad and one aunt because.... it's rough. And I barely know my dad's side of the family except my cousin. We had my grandma too but she passed away a few years ago.
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@safari93 Yes, friends can be less judgemental too Smiley Tongue I find that as you get older, your parents can also be super laidback too. 

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I also feel like the definition of family can change over time, especially if your biological family isn't great at supporting you or if you have to move far away from them. Family can mean a support network around you which helps you in lots of different ways

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@N1ghtW1ng welcome!! And yes extended family! Aunts and uncles and cousins and grandparents can be considered family as well. I remember my maternal grandmother and aunt were part of my family when I was very young, to help my mum raise me

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Hey Guys !

 

How would you describe your family? Is it made up of ‘blood relations’, like your immediate or extended family? Or is it a network of trusted friends?

 

I would describe my family as close but crazy in our own way, I have my family which is mostly made up of blood relatives, also I have my best friend who i have known for over 9 years and she is pretty much like a sister to me, I also have other friends and family friends who are close but not as much as others 

 

All I can say is that it is a close family who enjoy others company

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Welcome welcome @N1ghtW1ng!

 

Sorry to hear about that your mum's side is a tad difficult to get along with and that your grandma's passing Smiley Sad 

Sounds like you're pretty in touch though with both your immediate and extended family! A lot of us here consider our immediate family as family. 

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