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Re: [CHAT] Families!

it is a skill that is definitely possible @Elsie Smiley Happy
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: [CHAT] Families!

Rightio! Here's our last question for tonight!

 

10. How would you help a friend who was going through difficult times with their family?

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Re: [CHAT] Families!

How would you help a friend who was going through difficult times with their family?

 

I think one of the most important ways you can help is one that is pretty general - just be there for them! If they need to vent or rant or cry or just have someone to sound off on, being there can be a huge help. Also for families that are going through a loss or bereavement its useful to maybe distract your friend or even bring a meal for their family. It doesn't seem like much but it can go a long way

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@safari93 It really can be anything, big or small - it's all about lending a helping hand Smiley Happy

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@Myvo for sure!! It matters more to the other person that you are making an effort to be there

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I agree with @safari93 being the ear they need or the shoulder they need to cry on.
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: [CHAT] Families!

10. How would you help a friend who was going through difficult times with their family?

 

Definitely check up on them often, tell them you're there, make some food. When you're having a tough time with your family, it's likely to impact your life in many many ways and sometimes it's really hard to tell what the ripple effects will be. I'd probably suggest getting in touch with extra resources like reach out, going to uni / school counsellors if they were keen! Anything to boost resilience and morale!

 

My whole family were having difficulties last year and 3/4 of us ended up receiving medical and psychological treatment for depression - so it seemed like not having a safe and supportive environment was big trigger for our family! It's really important you keep an eye on friends to see if they are experiencing normal grief and family issues or if  they need some extra help!

 

You guys rock, keep it up!

Re: [CHAT] Families!

Alrighty! That's a wrap, people! Smiley Very Happy

 

Here's a summary of tonight's chat: 

How to: Family
Family come in so many different forms, from blood relations to trusty pals. Many of us think of our immediate family as our parents and siblings. But our friends are also a ‘family’ on its own too! There’s a difference between your family and your friends, in terms of support and closeness. They both offer different kinds of support - there may be one or the other that we would prefer. Even if we’re away for awhile, it’s good to catch up on what everyone’s been up to! The people in your family can be from anywhere, far and wide. Family involves people who you love and who want to be around for you, but also have a great bond.

 

We are family!
A network of people who mutually support each other and show love to one another – blood or not – is what we think a family is. Having a great, close bond with trust is essential to being a part of a family. There may be some blood relatives that you might be closer to than others, and that’s ok!

 

Close-knit family love
There are so many ways to show that you love and care about your family. It’s all about the small things – like making food, helping around the house, cleaning up, buying something meaningful or just spoiling them. This also includes just being there when problems arise, and of course, when the good times roll. It’s important to ensure those around you that you’re there, whenever they need you. Hugs, kisses, keeping in contact and all the lovely things about being comfy with your fam also works too. Being a good listener is invaluable too – so don’t forget your ears and to tune in!

 

Family fun
Lending some money as a gift or during some tough times, receiving gifts, and visiting them to have fun are some fun, nice things that family have done for or with us. There’s also dropping someone off at school, helping out on an assignment, and paying for dinner too!

 

Defying family (or gravity!)
Sometimes, family members don’t do the nicest things for us or with us. Being compared to others, and being generally controlling over where you go in life seem to be key events that many of us have experienced. A clash or a disagreement on values, beliefs and aspirations can also be difficult to deal with too.

 

Dealing with difficulties
Have the courage to speak out! That’s incredibly important, as your fam may be unaware that what they’re been doing isn’t right. Sometimes, their actions die out over time whereas others might be persisting. It’s good to start out with being honest and enacting on problem-solving actions.

 

Family feuds
Families will go through tough times, like fights or a shared experience - which is tough on everyone. It can be ‘push comes to shove’ at times, when you’re trying to sort it out but people aren’t co-operating. Taking a break from it for awhile and then talking about it in a different light can bring people close together – or even closer than they once were before.

 

Your go-to
If you’re going through tough times concerning your family, it doesn’t mean that you have to go it alone! Chatting to friends, or people outside of your family (like in your support network) can help with being more supported. This can give you more ideas and more insight to how to go about solving some issues or handling a situation better.

 

Past, present, future
It can be common to see your version of family change over time. We asked about the difference between your family from years past and your current family. In the past, we may have been close to family but might have distanced ourselves due to certain circumstances. But it doesn’t mean it’s all bad! Good experiences can come from bad ones Smiley Tongue People who share similar interests or are passionate about different causes can also be considered our family in the spectacular now Smiley Very Happy

 

Helping out
Being there and bringing meals when the going gets tough can be super helpful for a friend. Big, small, in-between, it’s the thought that counts Heart

 

Want more info? 

Hope you all have a good night! Smiley Very Happy

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Re: [CHAT] Families!

@puppies welcome!! Definitely agree with checking up on people, they might not say immediately if they need support. You've actually caught us at the end of the session!! But we do have other threads going, why not intro yourself here? (I know it's May technically but its still fun lol)

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Goodnight all!! Thanks for coming out, and thanks to @Myvo as well for co-facilitating!!