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[CHAT] How to help a friend

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Whether you’ve become best buds with someone in the last few months, throughout the years, or maybe – you met someone just now, you know that you’ll stick by them.

 

Hanging out with your friends is just awesome and it’s more awesome when you’re feeling good 200% of the time.

 

Having the trust, support, and care of a friend can really make a difference – especially when they help you out. When you get into a pickle, having a friend who can pull you out is invaluable. Huge, small, or in-between, it could be anything. From covering your work shift, study, or bailing you out from a risky situation, you know that a friend is someone to count on.

 

But aside from the good times, there’s also bad times.

 

When your friend is going through some tough times, it can be scary, daunting, or confusing to figure out what you can do. How do you ask them or start the conversation? And if you do start the conversation, it's especially scary if you quickly realise that you don’t have an instant answer or solution. Helping a friend can be a real challenge, and that’s ok. There’s so many services (and people!) out there who can also lend a helping hand when helping someone who means so much to you.

 

Chatting it out with other friends, family, and professionals can give you more insight and advice to help your friend out. But of course, if your pal is ok with this. Building a support network can be useful and a peace of mind, knowing that you’re not alone.

 

It’s important to ask what your friend needs, rather than assume what’s going to work. Chances are, they may appreciate icecream more than you worrying constantly.

 

But it's not always going to be that easy, there are also the moments when they tell you that they don't want or need help - it can be a real challenge. You are are hearing them say nothings wrong despite the fact that you can see they are struggling. It's at that point that most people think "what the f....*heck* do I do now!?". But there are ways to deal with this.

 

What’s also super important is looking out for you too. Sometimes, caring for someone can be exhausting and that there’s so only so much that you can do as one person. At the end of the day, it’s all about taking it one step at a time.

 

Even if you don’t live in a big city apartment or go to a magical wizarding school Smiley Tongue

 

**Whether you’re looking for advice to help out a friend, or you are someone who’s being helped out by a friend, or just want to get the down low for if it happens to you - we want to hear from you! Join us to chat about helping out your friends on Monday 20 April at 8pm, AEST! We'll be talking about how to support your friends – and you!**

 

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Re: [CHAT] How to help a friend

Hey everyone! Welcome to our Getting Real session for this week! @Myvo  and I will be your hosts for tonight! Smiley Very Happy

 

Knowing you're not alone when you're feeling down or going through a rough time can be a really amazing feeling. Sometimes it can be hard to know who to turn to, however, there are a special group of people who are always there for us when we need them - our friends (both in 'real life' and online)! Tonight we'll be talking about how we can help our friends and give them support when they are struggling.

 

Also, just a reminder to check out the forum guidelines before we start, and if you need to chat immediately or anything than check out the services section. 

 

So to kick things off:  What makes a good friend?

 

 

 

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Hey everyone! Smiley Very Happy

 

I think that honesty, loyalty, being a generally fun person, and being supportive are qualities that make a great friend <3

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A good friend is someone who shows you unconditional support, and manages to put up with the good, the bad, and the ugly! They are people who you can truly be yourself with and feel completely at ease with. They don't judge you or your choices. I've discovered such friends are rare but amazing to have, so you should definitely cherish them!

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Yeah, I totally agree @Myvo ! I think another really important quality is that they're not judgemental. You know you can tell them anything you want and they won't think your weird!

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@Cheeselover85 "Unconditional support"! Those are actually amazing words. I feel like you've hit the nail on the head there!

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Oh hey @Cheeselover85 ! Thanks for joining our chat tonight Smiley Happy

 

Definitely agree with your view on what makes a super friend! Yup, such friends are rare. But I'd say that although we have friends that we have common interests with, we've also got friends with different views too Smiley Tongue

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What makes a good friend?

 

Someone who knows you (the good, the bad and the ugly), who is willing to set you straight when you're going astray, and is a very easy relationship to maintain. A good friend need not necessarily be one you see every week!

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@KitKat Yup, and being non-judgmental. I find that sometimes, this can be intertwined with honesty too. Can be a tough call. 

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@copse Welcome to the sesh! 

 

I think that's a really good point - You don't need to see someone every week to be a really good friend, sometimes you might have not even met them face to face!