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[CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

 

Getting Real: RUOK?

 

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No one ever said life was easy, but no one ever said life would be this hard.

 

Sometimes life isn’t easy and you know what? That’s actually pretty normal.

 

Almost every single person you know has gone through a hard time in their lives, is going through a hard time right now or will go through a hard time in the future. Some people find it easy to reach out to friends or family and talk about their emotions and experiences, while others find it easy to reach out to professional help.

 

Unfortunately, there are a lot of us out there that find it difficult or embarrassing to speak out and say that we need a bit of extra support from the people around us.

 

That’s where ‘R U OK?’ day comes in!

 

 

R U OK?’ Day is a national day of action to remind all of us of the importance of checking in on our friends, colleagues, boyfriends, girlfriends and family to remind them that they’re not alone in whatever struggles they face. It’s on the second Thursday of every September (so, September 10th this year).

 

To recognise the importance of ‘R U OK?’ day, we’ll be hosting a Getting Real session focused on it on September 7th.

 

We’ll be discussing the 4 steps of actually having this difficult conversation with others and thinking about how it applies to us in our day-to-day lives.

 

So, join us next Monday to get the conversation started, and remember: You don’t need to know the answers to someone’s problem, you don’t even have to have all your own problems sorted out, you just need to be willing to listen without judgement.

 

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4 steps to ‘R U OK?’ day.

 

No matter who you are, you have everything it takes to have a meaningful conversation to support a mate in need.

***Join us on Monday 7th of September at 8pm (AEST) to chat about how to ask the question RUOK?***  

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

It's time for this weeks Getting Real! 

Today we're talking about RUOK? Day, how to ask that question and what to do after that!

Tonight it's me and @KitKat with some other people jumping in and out over the night!

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Also remember sometimes some of the things we talk might mean you need to reach out for some support! 

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And with that out of the way it's time for question 1! 

Sometimes people don’t always speak up when they’re struggling or feeling down, if

your gut instinct is telling you something is not quite right with someone then chances are

they may need a little bit of extra support. What are some ‘signs’ that someone may be

struggling and needs you to ask if they are okay?

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Welcome everyone to this session of Getting Real! Like @Ben-RO mentioned, I'll be dashing off later tonight and other people will be popping in (I'm working a night shift, so everyone pity me!!).

 

Sometimes people don’t always speak up when they’re struggling or feeling down, if your gut instinct is telling you something is not quite right with someone then chances are they may need a little bit of extra support. What are some ‘signs’ that someone may be struggling and needs you to ask if they are okay?

 

I know for me personally, the biggest sign that I'm not okay is that I'm just really quiet and withdrawn and thoughtful. It always tips my boyfriend off that I'm worried or stressing about something! Some people are the complete opposite though, and they seem and act completelyfine when they're not okay!

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Now to answer my own question Smiley Tongue 

Sometimes people don’t always speak up when they’re struggling or feeling down, if

your gut instinct is telling you something is not quite right with someone then chances are

they may need a little bit of extra support. What are some ‘signs’ that someone may be

struggling and needs you to ask if they are okay?


I think differences are as significant as signs... or in other words, when the way a person acts changes. If someone's routine changes, for example they stop going to class or stop joining in on activities you do with them or if they seem a little withdrawn from everyone, that can often mean something is going on that's worth talking about. 

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

What are some ‘signs’ that someone may be struggling and needs you to ask if they are okay?

 

This is easy but hard because there are so many diggerent people and they all show they need help in different ways, some don't even show it.  Some signs I can think of are:

  • Withdrawl
  • Being quieter than usual
  • Feeling down
  • Looking upset
  • Don't want company
  • Contact and social life decreases
  • Acting 'different'
  • Being upset often
  • Easily irritable/frustrated
  • Becoming unresponsive
  • Not enjoying what they used to
  • Acting very happy
  • Eating more
  • Eating less
  • Taking drugs or alcohol more

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Heya guys / gals

 

What are some ‘signs’ that someone may be struggling and needs you to ask if they are okay?

 

They seem withdrawn, not themselves, but also, they can be acting super dooper happy and bubbly.It just depends on how they hide it.

 

Sorry this is taking me so long to write, I'm eating a drumstick


My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

@stonepixie hope you're enjoying the drumstick! Smiley Tongue

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

So much! I can't just stop and write. @FootyFan26

My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

That's an awesome point @Ben-RO !

 

And @FootyFan26 That is an amaaazing list! I totally love the way you pointed out it's "easy but hard", you're totally right! We're all different and we show something is wrong in different ways which can make it really hard to tell when something is up. That's why things like R U OK? day is so important, because sometimes the only way to know if something is wrong is to ask!

 

@stonepixie Can I have a drumstick ? ): But I think you're right as well, some people try and overcompensate and hide how they're feeling but acting super happy. It can make things really confusing! 

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Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Hey everyone!

 

I literally walked in the door two minutes ago so I'm a little frazzled Smiley Tongue but I made it!

 

Sometimes people don’t always speak up when they’re struggling or feeling down, if your gut instinct is telling you something is not quite right with someone then chances are they may need a little bit of extra support. What are some ‘signs’ that someone may be struggling and needs you to ask if they are okay?

 

Being unusually quiet or irritable, losing interest in things they used to enjoy or changes in eating/sleeping patterns are the first things that come to mind.

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