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Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

What are some things we can do during the conversation to show that we’re listening and that we care?

 

  • Give them your full, undivided attention
  • Not judge them
  • Let them talk and you listen
  • Empathise or sympathise with them
  • Be respectful of their views and opinions
  • Don't disagree or 'down' what they say
  • Don't 'brush it off' and tell them not to worry
  • Make eye contact and don't 'avoid' them
  • Keep the conversation private and confidential
  • Don't act differently around them because of their problem

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

@stonepixie yes, body language is so crucial! 

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

@FootyFan26, awesome steps! Would definitely show that you care and are really listening!

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Welcome @j95 

 

The type of listening we're all talking about is a type of listening that is sometimes called Active listening, It's a technique that some counsellors and psychologists spend a lot of time getting the hang of. You guys are doing it already! Nice. 

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Don't act differently around them is right!! I agree completely @FootyFan26 the worst someone can do is baby a person cause of what they have told you
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Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

What are some things that we can suggest to someone going through a hard time that may help them?

I guess it depends on what's going on for them, but  after meeting all the wonderful people on Reach Out (yeaaah, that's you guys! Smiley Tongue) I would definitely suggest to some people that they should check out Reach Out and get to speak to a few people here! Sometimes it's really helpful to speak to people who have gone through the same or similar thing to them.

 

Otherwise, I'm a big advocate for people taking time out to do things that they enjoy and that help them de-stress! It may not fix all your problems (or any of them), but it can be a really refreshing feeling to clear your head with something fun and enjoyable!

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

The third step of the ‘R U OK?’ conversation is encouraging action. That doesn’t mean that we have to know the answers to their problems, but it does mean we have to be willing to offer support to them and help them think of ideas that may help them bring themselves into a better headspace. What are some things that we can suggest to someone going through a hard time that may help them?

 

Sometimes when people are stuck in a rut so to speak, it can be more difficult for that person to think of what their options are. It might be useful to mention to them different places they kind find information and support and different people they can talk to, such as GP, school counsellor, teacher, parent, helplines, Headspace, Reach Out! There are many options and it's useful to tailor it to what is most likely to click with that person and what is available. You can offer to go with them if they're nervous. I think it's also important to remind people that lots of people go through struggles and reaching out for help is ok and important. Also, just reminding them you're there for them no matter what. 

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

Yup @j95 someone who needs help wants to feel hear but not 'special' or 'different' sometimes you just want to be understood Smiley Happy and like what you say is in a safe place

Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

@KitKat It's the most obvious thing in the world but I think we're all guilty of it. Everyone's attached to their phones these days

 

The third step of the ‘R U OK?’ conversation is encouraging action. That doesn’t mean that we have to know the answers to their problems, but it does mean we have to be willing to offer support to them and help them think of ideas that may help them bring themselves into a better headspace. What are some things that we can suggest to someone going through a hard time that may help them?

 

 

Tell them to come on here! haha.

 

Encourage them to talk to a parent or professional if they need to, otherwise self-care stuff like eating properly, exercising, having a bedtime routine and trying to schedule in chill time is important.

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Re: [CHAT] RUOK day: How to ask, how to help

The third step of the ‘R U OK?’ conversation is encouraging action. That doesn’t mean that we have to know the answers to their problems, but it does mean we have to be willing to offer support to them and help them think of ideas that may help them bring themselves into a better headspace. What are some things that we can suggest to someone going through a hard time that may help them?

Coming on here would be a great start! Letting them know what is available... even doing a simple google search and actually giving them numbers is helpful. sometimes someone going through a tough time can find it hard to find motivation to seek out information.