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Re: Live Chat, Handling Friendship Drama, Monday the 17th of Feb, 7:30 pm AEDT

Goodnight everyone! I've loved reading everyone's answers and experiences. Thank you all for such a great chat! Heart
Looking forward to hopefully reading more about what people have to say about this topic later on! Smiley Happy

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Re: Live Chat, Handling Friendship Drama, Monday the 17th of Feb, 7:30 pm AEDT

Ahh yes jealous is a strange fuel and motivation that can compel us to do things we normally wouldn't huh...it's great you picked up on the nuanced exclusionary behaviours like that!
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Re: Live Chat, Handling Friendship Drama, Monday the 17th of Feb, 7:30 pm AEDT

1. What types of things can cause drama within/between friendship groups?

 

In my experience, drama is often caused by simple things like miscommunication or wrong impressions, or misunderstandings that can lead to resentments or hurt feelings.

 

 

2. Have you ever had drama in a friendship? If so, how did you deal with it? Was this productive? Do you wish you had done anything differently?

 

Of course- we took time to cool off and then talked about it frankly, face to face- not via social media where things can be misinterpreted or may be taken out of context or quoted in a negative light. It was very productive. One thing I'd do differently is meet in a private space as we met in a coffee shop- a public space wasn't the greatest place for the sensitive matter we were discussing. We felt a bit exposed, much the gif below!

 

 

 

3. Have you ever been excluded or pushed aside in a friendship group or cohort? What did you do in this situation?

 

I've never been pushed out per se, but I've definitely felt like an outsider, the most disposable, never anyone's favourite or top priority. I try to just think about what I value about each individual in the group and not take it personally. 

 

 

4 When drama gets overwhelming how can we take a step back whilst maintaining a good friendship outside of what’s going on?

 

Ohhh what a question- can you really ever step back though and remain neutral? I think it's a matter of recognising that it may permeate your relationship with a person and/or the group dynamics and vamping u your self-care techniques and reaching out to family and other support networks. Gain your strength and recharge outside of the friendship so you can face the problem with fresh eyes.

 

 

5. Following on from the last question, what are some signs that there is too much drama to keep the friendship alive? Have you ever had a friendship end because of drama? How did you cope with this?

 

Thankfully no, I've never had that experience so I can't speak to it. I tend to take a more preventative approach. What I mean is, I make sure my some of my self-care takes place outside of socialising, and I make sure I get plenty of alone time and take breaks between seeing friends so that I can rest and look forward to seeing them again.

 

 

 

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Re: Live Chat, Handling Friendship Drama, Monday the 17th of Feb, 7:30 pm AEDT

Hey thanks for tagging me, I’m in year 11, VCE the scary year 😂. I have been having not really trouble but my friend was not yelling at me but is mad at me because I move super slow and take my time, but everyone goes in their own pace , this was in cooking. I feel a little tension between me and him. What do I do?

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Re: Live Chat, Handling Friendship Drama, Monday the 17th of Feb, 7:30 pm AEDT

Hey @aebarrie12 

 

I think you're totally right - everyone moves at their own pace! It would be a little unsettling to feel tension between yourself and a friend. What you do comes down to what you feel comfortable with, do you feel like you could say that everyone moves at their own pace? Or bring it up in some way? 

Re: Live Chat, Handling Friendship Drama, Monday the 17th of Feb, 7:30 pm AEDT

Hi there

Maybe just give him some space and address the issue not in the heat of the moment, when you could be distracted by the cooking you are doing? Maybe you could try and ask him ways that you guys could work better as a team, and use both your strengths? That way your individual cooking/work paces can be seen as a positive thing and the tension won't escalate if you take more a positive approach and address it head-on?

Let me know if that helps!