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Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

I find these questions so tricky to answer. I just did a subject at uni that involved looking at our culture and identity and it's not something I actively think about so I find defining it really hard but I think identity is made up of lots of different things, maybe our personality, how we respond to things, our beliefs, interests, values, hobbies etc. I think our sense of self comes from the things and people we surround ourself with.

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

Great response. Totally agree. I'd also like to add an extra point:

 

I think identity is also shaped from your past. For instance, your identity is based on how well loved you were, how your parents treated you, what positive or negative experiences shaped your upbringing? Because i think the past forms your ideas about yourself and your outlook in life in the present Smiley Happy

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

Hmm...not sure. I know that at any point I can take a moment to consider my sense of identity and know "yep, this name is who I am, my gender is currently doing [this] (currently somewhere between demigirl and enby), I like this and that and these things".

But I'm not really sure how I know that; I just...do? I have learned over the past year or so to understand that internal sense better, but I don't know what it is, not really

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

So excited to chat with you all, I'll be popping in and out but looking forward to reading everyone's replies if I miss any! Smiley Very Happy

What is identity? Where does our sense of self come from?
Big question! Identity comes from a lot of places, even in areas we may not be aware of (for example you may think the school you go to doesn't affect who you are, but if you are wearing your school uniform then that counts as a part of identity). It can come from who you hang out with, what your interests are, your cultural background, your family, your sexuality... potentially, anything that that a person can be or do can relate back to an identity! A sense of self is a little the same, but is more about looking inwards and seeing how you identify yourself, rather than how others may identify you. 

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

I think identity is basically everything important we associate ourselves with or have a connection to. Our sense of identity is influenced by an array of factors, such as our environment, our cultural heritage, sexuality and gender. Identity is not fixed, and past and present circumstances and events can also change our sense of self. This is just one way of interpreting identity, and whatever our identity, is valid!

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

Yeah, I agree @celestialdreamer, it's such a complex thing that we don't usually think about!

I've kind of realised it is so easy to lost your sense of self when something changes in your life. Like, identity is not a fixed thing, a lot of what we perceive as us comes from what's going on in the world around us? With covid and everything, people might have lost their jobs/hobies/etc and feel lost because that was a big part of who they were

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

@Lost_Space_Explorer5  @wanderingwasp I also think that our values and sense of self can be shaped by our past experiences. For example, someone who's been betrayed by someone who hasn't been honest with them might value honesty. The way that someone has been brought up by their parents has also been known to influence how they act in future relationships, or their attachment style.

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

oh definitely @wanderingwasp, our earlier experiences seem to have a huge effect on how we see the world and act

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

I've had those sorts of experiences too @Remi! There have been times where I didn't know when something became a part of my identity, it had just always been a part of who I am.

Re: Live GR: Identity and Self-Acceptance, 9th of September, 7:30 pm AEST

@WheresMySquishy definitely!

Everything I've been through this year has shaped what my identity is now; how I was brought up and what I did as a kid has provided a foundation of sorts for the identity I now have