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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

Also here's Wednesday's question btw! Smiley LOL 

How are you feeling right now/ coping with the current situation?

 

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

I am really loving this GR- what fantastic questions, especially given the current state of the world. 

 

@WheresMySquishy  I relate so strongly to what you said about previously feeling like you "need" to achieve things by a certain age, or certain stage of life. I used to have really concrete ideas about what I wanted to achieve by certain ages, like finishing my original degree , working in certain jobs, etc. It turned out that life had very different plans for me, and some things happened that I never could have predicted. At the time that was really hard and definitely messed with my head a bit, but years down the track, I can honestly say that I'm happy that life took its twists and turns.

 

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On the other hand, I also believe that it's important for humans to be able to plan for the future, and feel some sense of agency about what lies ahead and the choices they are going to make. Even if things don't work out as planned, setting goals and making those plans can be really important. I know a lot of people are struggling to sit with that uncertainty right now, and some days I feel like I'm doing really well at going with the flow, other days I feel frustrated that I can't have any sense of certainty about the next 6 months. 

 

What are some things you can control?

 

I find a lot of comfort in remembering that while I can't control a lot of world events, I can control (to a certain extent) my own reactions to what happens around me, the activities I choose to do, and how I spend my time.

 

For me, that means being purposeful about doing things that fill my cup every day, like going for a morning walk, hanging out with family, listening to music, reading books, and pottering around in the garden. 

 

I can also control what I consume on social media and news, and there's been a few times lately that I've muted certain things from my social media feed, or decided to only check the news once a day (I'm usually a bit of a news junkie), and that's helped me a lot. 

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

Great questions!!

 

Why do you think we need to feel certain about life events?

As humans, we are designed to desire some level of certainty and control. As many things are, I believe this has biological roots - it was part of the safest and best method for surviving way way back when. Humans now days recognise we can't have control over everything, but for a lot of people, that's where we feel safe. There is safety in knowing what's coming and in preparation, we feel fearful when we don't understand things, or feel they are out of our control.

 

What are some things you can control?

I feel like many things have been mentioned, and I am in agreement - all we can control are our responses. We may not be able to control our initial reaction, nor the emotions that subsequently stem from it, and that's okay. We need to give ourselves space for these knee-jerk reactions before we can consciously think about what we can change. We can't change what's happening but we can alter small things that give us a sense of situational control - for example, we can clean our rooms/homes to create a clean, calm space. We can do grounded breathing/relaxation/ mindfulness exercises. We can work out. We can eat chocolate. We can ask for help. Small things.

 

How are you feeling right now/coping with the current situation?

I feel like I am similar to probably many others - I have my ups and downs. Last week I had a few days where I was angry with everything, and deeply upset about everything else. I gave myself space to process my sense of grief and in doing so, allowed myself to develop a sense of peace and calm. I am coping the way I can - trying to eat healthily, but listening when my body says it wants chocolate; exercising every day because it helps my mood; trying to set routines; having good sleep, but again listening when my body wants to sleep in or stay up later; staying in regular contact with my friends and partner, because they're the ones feeling the same as me - some are stood down, some are working from home, all are anxious and feeling grieved like I am. Supporting others and allowing myself to be supported in return is huge for my ability to cope.

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

@ecla34  woo, I'm a little late to the party but here we go! And such juicy questions too!

 

Why do you think we need to feel certain about life events?

To make us feel secure, enable us to continue routine, and predict and adapt/mitigate any threats to that routine. Or else I tend to feel like this...

 

What are some things you can control?
My self care, how I continue to nourish others, my creative flow.

 

How are you feeling right now/ coping with the current situation?
With the virus? I'm doing ok- uni is providing a distraction and filling my days, same with work. After the semester ends and I won't have any more study for a long while? Not entirely sure what I'll do!

 

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

Today's question: How can we stay positive when faced with uncertainty?' How have you dealt with uncertainty in the past?


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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

How can we stay positive when faced with uncertainty?'
Trying to stay to your routine as much as possible, and if there are some things you can't do, then try and find something else to fill in the time. In particular times like these I have found that I often think what can I do better and such.

How have you dealt with uncertainty in the past?
Yes, countless of times, I can't really think of any at the moment, but I think often thinking what can I control often helps.
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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

@Bee  Great question!!
How can we stay positive when faced with uncertainty?' How have you dealt with uncertainty in the past?
I think amping up self-care and doing things that we find joyful can help. In the past, I do this and try and see what this is trying to teach me, and seek out community

 

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

@ecla34 @WheresMySquishy  @xXLexi_Lou122Xx @Tiny_leaf @JazzInMay  @keezeik wow, your responses (and questions) amaze me and get me thinking. What crazy times this is. I'm proud of you all!

 

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

Last question!

How can we help others cope with uncertainty whilst also looking after ourselves?

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Re: Slow-mo GR: Coping with uncertainty, Monday the 6th of April- Friday the 10th

How can we help others cope with uncertainty whilst also looking after ourselves?

 

I think doing self-care, encouraging others to do self-care that works for them, or taking part in communal self-care together, especially in times like these!