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Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

I agree - if you can afford it, then seeing a good doctor is worth the extra $... Sad that even though we have public health - good doctors are still often out of the reach of those on low incomes!

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Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

I haven't had any first appointments in a while... And hope I don't have any time soon as I'm pretty happy with those I currently see... Most of the professionals I've met have been pretty good and I've not had a problem with. Smiley Happy

I would be interested though in how others deal with trust issues for those first appointments?

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I went to see a counselor a few months back for the first time and it scared me because I wasn't sure what to say or what the counselor  would say about what I had to say.

Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

Oh, delicatedreamer to the rescue! MM and I were starting to like the sound of our own voices...
And then there were 3!!

DD: Yes, I'm glad I have an ally in dentist-fear! Though its not that uncommon I guess....
I wonder if its more worrying to see someone where you have to talk more about whats going on rather than show them (like a physio can sort of feel whats happening to your body. Is that true or am I making that up?)

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Hey DD! Welcome!!!

 

I also had to see a new physio earlier this year (my previous one died in a car crash Smiley Sad ). So it was super difficult to see someone new when I was still grieving for my old one (who was very much a friend as well as physio!). It's also tough when you see those types of people if you are seeing them for areas which mean you have to take your shirt off (e.g. back pain!). It's a bit scary doing that for the first time - they are always super understanding and leave the room and stuff and make sure you have a towel to cover you, but it's still a bit scary! 

 

Seems as though dentists are a common worry!! So glad I don't fear my dentist in the slightest - the only thing I fear is that he'll go mad at me for not flossing as much as I should. Smiley Tongue

 

 

Lets move on to the next question:

 

How do you go about choosing a new health professional? What kind of stuff do you normally look for?

Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

Hi Bubblez, definitely going to talk about some of those first appointment worries in a bit - and trust issues will defo be one of them. Is that something you've dealt with...

Hey there Maddybee18 - welcome! I think that many people share you experience there with the counsellor... Very common concerns.... "what should I say? What will they say/think" Was there anyone that you spoke to beforehand who had some advice to give? Who'd seen a counsellor too?

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Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

Welcome Bubblez and maddybee! Great to have you here!!

 

@Bubblez - It is great you have an amazing group of health professionals! Trust is definitely an area many of people struggle with... I remember when I first saw my current psychiatrist I was SO nervous about what he might ask me in the first appointment but thankfully it was pretty straightforward for the first appointment - and he respected my wishes to not talk about something if I didn't want to! I've been seeing him for 3 years now and only recently have I trusted him enough to tell him some things! So it can take a very long time!!! I guess it is important to be open though and give them the benefit of the doubt (if you can!). But trust does take time, and it's unrealistic to think that you would trust them with everything in the first appointment. It's the same with my GP appointment on Wednesday, I'm not going to tell her everything straight up... Just keep it simple and "need to know"... Trust develops over time.

I'm really keen to hear what others think about this trust issue!

 

@maddybee18 - welcome!! Seeing a counsellor for the first time is HUGE so well done on getting through it! They are totally common fears and I'd be keen to hear how you got through it! Did you end up opening up to the counsellor? I find taking notes along can be helpful, then I don't forget anything important. Smiley Happy

 

 

Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

"How do you go about choosing a new health professional? What kind of stuff do you normally look for?"
Unfortunately for many of us it's: low cost/no cost/bulk billed; no waiting list; accessible by public transport etc...
It's not fair, but sometimes we don't get the luxury of finding out if they are youth friendly or if it's a LGBTIQ safe space or the gender of the professional etc... though - we should!!!
Something I try to do if possible is to chat to the professional first on the phone to see if I 'click' with them. Not always possible, but most counsellors will do it... Some counsellors even put up a youtube video so you can see what they are like!

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@Sophie-RO: Yeah I think that's true. I think one of the reasons why I felt so comfortable with the physio was because I was just talking about a functional issue to do with my arm rather than something more personal (like my mental health) or something that I was really worried about.

@MM: Oh that's sad that your physio died Smiley Sad. That must have been hard for you. Yeah I agree it was a bit scary to take my clothes off but I just tried to remind myself that they do it everyday and they're focused on fixing a problem for you, not what you look like.

 

How do you go about choosing a new health professional? What kind of stuff do you normally look for?


Like Sophie and MM were saying, I try to go for someone who has been recommended to me. I also try to go for females over males if I can (I just feel more comfortable with the same gender).

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Re: Talking to a professional for the first time

How do you go about choosing a new health professional? What kind of stuff do you normally look for?
Definitely agree with the ones Sophie & DD suggested. Recommendations are so important. I also am a bit picky with age... I don't like anyone too old (that probably makes me seem super discriminative), I just find it hard to relate to anyone who is too old! For some strange reason (apart from GP), I prefer males over females. I would also REALLY like to find professionals who are mental healthy savvy - not always possible though.

DD - about the "they do it everyday", that's totally the way I think about it! They've seen EVERY body shape and size, so why would mine be any different! Though still nerve-wrecking, especially when seeing GPs for "female stuff"!