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Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

I'm going to ask another q if everyone is ready?
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

Interesting one this one and could be the basis of clashes in some relationships...

 

Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship?

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

@j95 Gopher it! 

 

Gopher it

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship?

 

This one isn't really as straight forward as I first thought... but I think it comes down to being honest with your partner and respecting them, knowing if you're friendship is getting a little more than friendy, if those ingredients are included then yes its fine But then how does this question work for those who are in a relationship with somebody of the same sex?

 Am I reading into this wrong?

//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//
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Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

@Ben-RO haha that's outrageous. 

Is it okay to have friends of the opposite sex in a relationship?

 

Yeah big time.  If this is making one member of a relationship upset than it may highlight a trust issue and definitely worth exploring more! What do you all think?

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

 
I assuming this in the case of a heterosexual relationship, where both people are attracted to members of the opposite sex?
 
I really think it should be okay, although i know a lot of people who aren't exactly comfortable with the idea. I think that the solution if a person isn't comfortable with their partner having friends of the opposite sex might be to figure out what the discomfort is coming from with the other person, rather than just saying it's not okay! I think pretty much all of the time if you think someone having friends who are of the opposite sex is not okay then the problem is you, not the persons desire for friendships.
 
However each relationship is up to the people in it. So if everyone is okay with the idea, and by okay with the idea i mean they feel safe to say when they're not okay with something too, then maybe it's alright to not have friends of the opposite sex? I am pretty nervous about saying that though because i know most of the time this stuff is a type of control that can happen in very unhealthy relationships.

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Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

argh my post came out weird... must fix...

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

It's a tricky question @j95! I think the fact that we have to think about attraction for the question to make sense makes it pretty clear that the many people who have concerns about their partners seeing members of the opposite sex are probably not worried about friendships, they've got some big time trust issues and need to sort themselves out a little! 

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

yeah that makes a lot of sense @Ben-RO

Should we have a last minute question or call it a night here @Ben-RO
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//

Re: Time for Tinder or Something More Tender?

Oh Gee! How is it 10pm already? That came around fast!

 

Thanks so much for popping online everybody! @tsnyder @j95 @joy101