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Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good


EloiseRose wrote:
Although the BEST ADVISE i ever got was
"WHENEVER YOU ARE STUCK FOR CONVERSATION ASK THE PERSON YOU ARE TALKING TO ABOUT THEM" - why? because everyone loves talking about themselves haha

Hahahaha. It is true in a lot of cases though. Especially if the person has a lot of different things they do with their life or an interest they're especially passionate about. Smiley Happy 

I think it can also be good to ask the person straight out what they do (study work, etc) or what they'd like to do.

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

@Lightuptheworld 

 

Thats a much nicer way of saying what i did haha!!

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good


EloiseRose wrote:

"WHENEVER YOU ARE STUCK FOR CONVERSATION ASK THE PERSON YOU ARE TALKING TO ABOUT THEM" - why? because everyone loves talking about themselves haha

Unless you are me in real life. If I don't know you, I won't tell you anything about myself.

 

I swear I missed out on the lesson in life about how to interact with other people.


My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

@stonepixie 

Fair enough! I mean i guess its a flawed arugment to make on many levels .

But i find it helpful when i dont know someone to ask questions about what they do even if its a lil investigation to see if we have anything in common

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Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

@stonepixie I think it's perfectly fine to be cautious when you first meet new people. I tend to sort of gage how well they're going to accept certain info and if I'm worried I stick to the basics for a while of that I'm a uni student, volunteer, etc.

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

What practical tips would you give someone who was struggling to be social?

 

Just never give up, as hard as it may seem. I've been an active member of a club now for 4 months and still hardly know anyone, but that doesn't stop me from attending events and meetings.


My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

Ok so the last question has raised some interesting insights into being social 

here is another question:

 

What is the trap in being overly social, if there is one?

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

@stonepixie So true. If you give up you could miss out on some great chances to get to know others and miss out on doing some fun stuff that interests you.

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

I try to stick to the basics as well, but I don't want to stand around chatting about uni. Most things I mention go over peoples heads. And when I talk about volunteering, as soon as they find out the organisation I volunteer for, well, that pretty much ends the conversation. All I can say is that they must have strong opinions against the org.  Which is sad since they do lots of wonderful work.


My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ

Re: [Chat] "Hello. Who are you?"*- Socialising- the good and the not so good

What is the trap in being overly social, if there is one?

I guess you could risk making others feel uncomfortable or even not focus enough on your other commitments.

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