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Ben-RO
Uber contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:29 PM

@ClCl well, while i think it's possible to have a conflict free relationship, i don't think it would be a very good or healthy relationship. I think sometimes people have trouble making their needs known or communicating assertively if they're misunderstood. If two people are in a relationship and facing that challenge, then well, you might have a conflict free relationship! Unfortunately it's really hard to know what another person needs if they can't communicate that to you and sometimes there's a bit of conflict in communication, so i'd say a conflict free relationship is a not very happy relationship on anything other than the most shallow layers 😞 

 

 

ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:34 PM

Thanks for going into that further @Ben-RO . I misread/interpreted what you had initially said, thinking you were saying it was the ideal, so I am super pleased you gave that extra clarification 🙂
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Ben-RO
Uber contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:40 PM

Is all conflict bad? Or can there be positives to conflict?

 

Hmm it seems to me like we all think conflict has its positives! Perhaps it's a paricular type of conflict that has it's up sides? I think there's conflict that doesn't really have a positive, for example if there's threats of harm, intimidation of violence, then it's not okay conflict and i don't really think there's a positive to it! 

ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:43 PM

Completely agreed @Ben-RO !
|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||
khaleesi_18
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:15 PM

Hey @Chrissyabd thanks for joining us tonight! Not late at all, don't worry. Smiley Happy

khaleesi_18
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:07 PM

Hey @j95 and @redhead! Great to see you tonight Smiley Happy

 

Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

 

I’m not entirely sure if relationships can be entirely free of conflict, but some conflicts can be more severe than others. I have friendships where I have never fought with the other person, BUT we may have had minor disagreements. In other relationships (at work or school for example) there might be conflict in the form of misunderstanding what the other person is saying. In my experience, conflict can be a normal (and actually healthy) part of some relationships.

 

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:11 PM

Hey guys, 

I've just joined in, sorry I'm late, what aspect of conflicts are we talking about now?

ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:13 PM

Hi @Chrissyabd !

No need to apologise 🙂

So far we are talking about:

Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

 

What do you think?

|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:16 PM

Thanks 🙂

I personally think that there is no such things as conflict-free relationships, so long as two different people are involved there is bound to be challenging of opinions, values, perspectives, ideas etc. I think conflict is a normal part of any relationship, in fact it's probably healthy to a certain degree as it pushes one to try and gain different insight or perspective, grows one personally and allows for interesting points of discussion. It can however become destructive, and I think it reaches that point when pride and arrogance consume an individual..

ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:20 PM

Those are some really insightful thoughts @Chrissyabd !
|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:18 PM

I'm currently dealing with a friendship that's falling apart because of exactly this..

ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:22 PM

Sorry to hear you are experiencing some tough times with a friend at the moment @Chrissyabd. I hope you might get some useful ideas in this discussion tonight. But also feel free to start a new thread in the tough times section to discuss your situation further after the discussion, if you like 🙂
|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:13 PM

Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

 

I reckon there is, it's the sort of relationship you want to worry about!  

khaleesi_18
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:01 PM

Hi everyone! Welcome to tonight's GR chat about conflict in relationships. @ClCl are super excited to tackle this topic with you all, and looking forward to a valuable/meaningful discussion. Smiley Happy

 

As always, please remember our community guidelines during the discussion tonight. Smiley Happy

 

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Let's get started! Our first question tonight is:

 

Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:04 PM

Hi everyone


Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

I don't believe so.
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originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:03 PM

Hey @khaleesi_18 @ClCl!

 

ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:05 PM

Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

 

I think not. But I see it as though there are relationships with toxic conflict and reasonable conflict. It depends on the intention, regularity and handling of the conflict on everyone behalf as to which category (within the spectrum) it falls into.

|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||
j95
Uber contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:07 PM

Is there such a thing as a conflict-free relationship?

I don't think so, all relationships have some sort of conflict
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//
ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:06 PM

Hi @redhead and @j95 thanks for joining us tonight! 🙂
|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||
j95
Uber contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:04 PM

Hey everyone
//You can stay afraid, or slit the throat of fear and be brave//
ClCl
Star contributor

originally posted on 18-07-2016 8:03 PM

Hey everyone!!
|| Life runs in cycles, the wheel never stops turning, no matter how dark the night morning comes, no matter how cold the winter, spring comes. When you feel despair know that the wheel is turning, joy will come. ||