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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:32 PM
Would you say that sometimes breaking up can be a positive thing?
For me break ups are a positive thing if they are dragging you down. I think you still need to be able to grow as a person while you are in a relationship, and if you are fighting all the time or feeling unloved in a relationship you aren't getting the chance to be your best self. You need to be with someone who can help you up and help you to keep achieving.
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:25 PM
@pegasus123 that's a really good point - sometimes you get with someone when it isn't really the right time for it. People change over their lives so you might not be the best partner for someone at a certain point in your life
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:24 PM
@j95 burning of clothes is generally a bad thing, and in the context of a breakup is definitely a bad sign 😛
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:23 PM
@lanejane I think so too - it seems like generally being uncommunicative or unable to communicate honestly or kindly is a good indicator
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:23 PM
my partner of one year and i broke up back in October. After a week, we got talking again and now were best friends with plans to get back together. Sometimes break ups cant be prevented. The timing of our relationship was wrong and we both have things to work on before we decide to get back together. At first i didnt understand, but now i think it was the best decision
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:29 PM
totally true @pegasus123 a relationship can be so wrong at one stage of your life, and totally right at another...
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:22 PM
Hey guys!!This is going to be a great chat, I've got heaps of interesting stories to share. Including when an ex burnt my favourite beanie in the fire during a nasty breakup. Ha...
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:28 PM
ahhh the old beanie in the fire trick!!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:24 PM
@j95 not sure whether to like that and high 5 it - or not haha. it does sound nasty indeed.
i'm giving it a high 5 as an encourager to tell us more later in the thread 
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:27 PM
@pegasus123 Made a good point there. Sometimes you notice that things aren't going very well and you need to break up because of it.... Sometimes a "break up" can just be a "break" until you get things sorted out.
Hmm. I guess that leads me to another question:
3. Would you say that sometimes breaking up can be a positive thing?
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:38 PM
It can be, like sometimes you can break up and then end up being friends, or end up back together or it could be the total oposite effect like one of my best friends and a guy thats friends with me also, he asked her while half drunk to go out, she agreed but the next day she knew it wouldnt work and since then he always wants to make her life a living hell, like thats not a joke, when he can make fun of her he will, but because i am so close with her and him i end up telling him off and reminding him that she is a person and has feelings, but it does make trying to be with both of them hard because they are against hanging out, but i will not say that it's always that case as some of you guys do seem to have one of those good relationships with others,
all i'm trying to say with this is that yes if you have a good relationship with someone then yes it can be positive but also on the other hand if the relationship was broken up for bad reasons or on bad terms then i think it may not be as postive,
but thats my thoughts 
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:43 PM
@Dreamer 95 sounds like if you need to be reminding this guy to be nice to your friend it's good that she realised they probably aren't suited in the long run.
i think sometimes, we get focused on the good stuff and try and disregard some of the other stuff we don't like so much.... but at the end of the day when it comes to love, lust and relationships you've really got to look at the "whole picture"!
you've got to think about what is positive and what is negative before making any decisions.
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:48 PM
Have you ever experienced a break up? (Did it go as well as could be expected?)
I have always been one of those "if we break up we aren't friend" type of people. That being said my last break up was quite some time ago and I was stuck in high school drama mode!
I completely did not see the break up coming and just cracked the shits.
Heart break turned angerrrr!
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:30 PM
Would you say that sometimes breaking up can be a positive thing?
Yup, definitely. Sometimes, it really is for the best - whether the timing is off (i.e. going separate ways), a solution (or solutions) weren't found/agreable for ongoing issues, or it was just so damn toxic!
Stay excellent
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:34 PM
@Myvo you've put that in a really interesting way. sometimes its "for the best". you don't always see it like that at the time, but then later on you start to realise why it was a good thing.
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:37 PM
omg i have to say this just quickly. on the topic of being unloved in relationships. honestly one of the hardest thing about me watching that 50 shades of grey movie was when she was just constantly left alone in that bedroom all lonely and feeling rejected.
i have a real soft spot for people feeling lonely. i was almost crying just at that.
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:22 PM
@Dreamer 95 I guess it depends on whether you and your partner think it would be worth working to stay together or if the relationship will affect one or both of you badly
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:20 PM
What are some signs that a relationship might be heading towards a break up?
I guess it depends on the situation. It might just be the realisation that you can't stay with a person anymore because one or both of you can't provide something to the other person, or maybe you or your partner aren't in a good space to be able to have a healthy relationship. It might also be outside factors - maybe one of you has to move away for a long time or you can't be together and stay safe or something like that
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:12 PM
Welcome @Myvo !! I agree with you - basically showing the other person respect. And @chandelier that's true, not all relationships last, but it's still important to treat your partner with respect, trust and love, and that in itself can help during the hard times
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:07 PM
@Dreamer 95 welcome!! And yeah sometimes things outside of a relationship can be too much to be able to work through
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:06 PM
@lanejane definitely!! It can be hard to avoid them sometimes, although it doesn't mean you break up over the slightest thing. If you think you can work through the problem with your partner, then a breakup could be avoided for a while
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:06 PM
I think it depends on the actual relationship and people, like if you can feel something may happen then you probably couldn't prevent it but if you are just going through a rough time you just have to try and work through it.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 23-02-2015 8:11 PM
@Dreamer 95 Definitely agree on that one! It really does depend on the kind of relationship, and whether it's just a rough patch or something more than that.
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