originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:56 PM

Thanks everyone it was great

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:55 PM

Thanks for tonight guys! 

Hope you all have a goodnight! 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:47 PM

see as i said it's different for people, like if it was bad timing thats great if someone finds another time thats better but its the persons preference, i was meaning myself i probably wouldn't if someone cheated, on the other hand i would have to think about if i wanted to get back with an ex
this is just me

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:51 PM

You guys have been so great tonight in our chat. Thanks so much for coming along and sharing your experiences with. Unfortunately we've come to the end of our GR session, but for those of you who might have just chimed in and are reading our chat from somewhere out there in cyber space i'm going to give you a quick summary of everything we've chatted about tonight!!

 

We spoke about ways to cope with an unexpected end to a relationship like by: trying to remain calm, keeping open lines of communication with the person you have been seeing and with people around you about what’s going on and how you’re feeling!

 

We have also realized through our own experiences, and experiences helping friends through break ups, that’s its important to look after yourself during a break up like by taking some time out to practice self care (going for a walk, take a bath, talking it out, patting dogs… I say they all totally count as self care).

 

Remember as well that there is always support out there during a break up if you need it – you don’t have to go through it on your own – there is friends and family, as well as the following professional services:

 

http://www.relationships.org.au/

https://www.eheadspace.org.au/

https://www.lifeline.org.au/

https://qlife.org.au/

 

It seems like we have had some varied experiences with break ups (and make ups!) tonight and for anyone who would like further reading on this topic check out the below links from RO 🙂

 

http://au.reachout.com/managing-pressures-with-your-boyfriend-or-girlfriend

http://au.reachout.com/is-your-relationship-past-its-useby-date

http://au.reachout.com/is-honesty-really-the-best-policy

http://au.reachout.com/coping-with-a-break-up

http://au.reachout.com/all-about-being-single

http://au.reachout.com/bringing-sex-into-a-relationship

 

Yeahhhhhhh LOTS OF LINKS. Links are the bombbbbbb! (In all seriousness though I have actually ready every single one of those articles and they are all really good)

 

 

Thanks again guys and I look forward to seeing you all next week. I will be there looking forward to getting to know you all some more 🙂

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:42 PM

I think @pegasus123 posted a good story about dating an ex earlier. Sometimes it does work!

 

In the past i've tried to re-date my exes. It didn't go very well for me. Like, in my head I thought it would be really good and everything would be perfect again. But it's kinda not the same the second time around? You've both changed, but you expect the person to be how they used to be? .... something like that anyway.

 

 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:42 PM

Like the question before it's really a difficult answer because everyone have their own prefrences, myself i probably wouldnt but thats me, others may want to but depends on eveyone and what happened between them and their ex

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:43 PM

I posted about this in the man cave a few months ago - I think, as hard it is on the other person, if you are the dumper, it's up to you, don't hold yourself back but be careful not to find someone just as replacement. Same goes for the person who is dumped. If I had to out a time frame on it, I would say a month minimum but it depends on the seriousness of the relationship, how long you were together and stuff. I know that I haven't exactly gone by 1 month minimum and have, once before, started seeing someone before I broke up with another (another oops for me). I have heard something about 1 week for every month you were together or something but i don't know, everybody is different!!

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:45 PM

haha, sounds like a mathematical equation @j95 

 

1 week for every month you were together.

 

shit that could be ages of single-ness if you were married or like high school sweet hearts.

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:49 PM

I know right @lanejane ain't nobody got time for dat

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:46 PM

ps. my official response to our last question is:

 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:36 PM

@Myvo 

I always wonder how long people expect their ex's to wait too?

 

Sometimes I feel like we hide new relationships for a while because we're worried about still hurting the last person we dated or broke up with.

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:37 PM

@lanejane I guess people do that so it doesn't appear like they've 'cheated' or been unfaithful, explaining the break-up. But then again, we can't control how others interpret our actions. 

originally posted on 23-02-2015 9:21 PM

@safari93 i think friends and family are one of the most important things during a break up. talking about how you feel is a great way to get your thoughts out and look after your mind.

 

when i was going through a break up i used to go walking with a friend and we would just talk the whole way through. it was helping me to get everything out while exercising and looking after my body in the fresh air (which we all know it can be hard to get during a break up cos you spend a lot of time in ur bedroom feeling shit).