[CHAT] Saying sorry and forgiveness
Join us, this Monday 6th July at 8pm AEST because....
It’s one of the hardest things to do, but forgiving someone can make a big difference to how happy you are. That’s because feeling bitter or angry towards someone prevents you from experiencing happy feelings.
Being overrun by negative feelings obviously isn’t great for your own happiness, so making an effort to transform those feelings through forgiveness is worth a go. When you forgive, the negative feelings you have disappear. This gives you the space to experience positive feelings again.
Research has shown that people who forgive:
- Experience more happiness
- Are in better physical health (particularly in terms of cardiovascular health)
- Have better relationships, which in turn can increase happiness even more
In other words, forgiveness is something you can do for yourself!
On the other hand, saying sorry can be awkward and difficult. Depending on why you want to apologise, you might have some hesitation. If you’re worried that the other person won’t forgive you, remember that apologising is still better than refusing to admit anything is wrong. Saying sorry is also hard if you don’t believe that you’ve done anything wrong. In this situation, try thinking about the impact of what you have done on the other person, and remembering that they are hurt. Your apology is a way of helping the other person and maintaining your relationship.
So join us on Monday for the chat!
8. "saying sorry and forgiveness involves being pretty self-aware. what are some of the ways that you know to build self-awareness & understanding"?
I personally like to build self awareness from meditation. meditation has weird connotation but basically all your doing is focusing on the moment and not trapped inside yourhead with a plethora of thoughts.
1. Communicating with the other person and getting all your feelings out.
2. Evaluating the situation and keeping an eye for it to avoid it happening again. But this doesn't mean to be closed to trying certain things again.
3. Reminding your self that these things happen. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone gets hurt, learn from it and move on. SELF TALK!
On the note of great tips
10. Apart from forgiveness, what are other ways that you challenge negative thoughts in your own life?
Apart from forgiveness, what are other ways that you challenge negative thoughts in your own life?
I personally don't but meditation and reflection are good ways to go.
Question 10 guys. Lets give it all,
10. Research has shown that people who forgive experience more happiness and even are in better physical health (particularly in terms of cardiovascular health).
We'd love you hear you theories on why this is!! Go!
I think this theory sounds good! When I dont forgive people and I hold onto resentment I feel like I suffer a lot. Especially if its someone i have a big grudge on
And in turn you'll obviously feel less tense, more open to things, have a clear mind and take the day as it comes ... leading to a better physical health 😄
I think we can challenge negative thoughts by looking at the outcome and realising that what we are fearing is often imagine in our minds and not actually real.
HAHA ^ this ones even better
don't get caught up in thinking (slowly believing) something horrible when you're not even 100% sure its real.
I just want someone to be genuine. And if so change their future behaviors to show they meant it.
time for some reflecting guys,
7. When was the last time you had to forgive someone for something significant - what did you commit to as part of the apology?
For me, last time I committed to not doing that action and putting myself in a situation where it could happen. When A similar situation would start to emerge I would think "nope not this again" and really cut the problem at the roots.
I guess in a sense, through my apology I committed to not making the same mistake a second time.
@Troy thats awesome!
you learnt from it and avoided it completely when you sensed it ...
7. When was the last time you had to forgive someone for something significant - what did you commit to as part of the apology?
I said sorry to my english teacher because they thought I was going out of my way to make their job hard.
My commitments are probably going to be to try harder and have a more positive attitude towards the subject.
If its something significant I personally am not satisfied by words. I have to really be able to feel they mean it. However, if its something not that significant I am happy if they just acknowledge it with a quick few words even the single word 'sorry' and then we both move on 🙂
Sometimes moving on in enough and you dont need anything said, but the vibe that your both moving past it (i think more common for guys, is enough to make me feel satisfied
I think if it's something serious and they keep doing it it's ok to reject the apology
Is saying sorry enough? Or are there times when more is needed?
Depends on what has been done. If it's something small/silly/annoying/etc 'sorry' usually cuts it, but if you dun goof'd big time, chocoalte and cats may be required. (for me at least) 
Often sorry needs to be accompanied with action. We need to back up what we say.
@redhead your smashing these questions. Im literally vibing all your answers 🙂 cut straight to it
